Understanding the Law of Attraction

Please send me some Energy this week!

2010-04-11T12:16:00.002-04:00

This week marks the time when everything comes together after two years of preparation, where my partner and I get the opportunity to push ourselves past our limit of comfort to test all that we've learned in the spiritual arena.

It all comes down to two minutes and forty seconds.

And I'm asking for your support...Energetic support. There's nothing to buy, nothing to donate except a few moments of your time and the energy of loving positive thoughts and well-wishes. That's it!

Do you know how powerful you are?

I know. That is why I'm asking you for support. And if for whatever reason, it doesn't feel right for you, that's OK too.

You'd be amazed at the power of an intention shared by a group of like-minded people! If you've read The Intention Experiment by Lynne McTaggart, you'll know what I'm talking about!

This week, my dream partner and I will be competing at the Adult National Figure Skating Championships. We've had our ups and downs over the last two years (frozen shoulder, various injuries, arguments, miscarriage, emotional stuff, etc.), but everyone does. I'm sure you do too.

But there is something magical about intending an outcome and seeing how it manifests. I can guarantee one thing (and it isn't that we'll win a gold medal); that EVERY competition is a new personal growth experience for me.

Last time we competed at Nationals, I learned that "I don't have to be perfect to win". It was a valuable lesson because my achilles heel is always striving for perfection.

In 2008 when James and I won our first gold, I was happy to witness how unattached I was to the gold medal. We had messed up badly (or so we thought) during our performance and I even ended up on my butt in front of the judges! But I was thankful for the experience of feeling at peace despite the mistakes.

To our utter surprise, we still won the gold medal! I felt tears welling up when we found out because it was as if the Universe was rewarding me with how unattached I was to the outcome. In the past I would have been devastated and angry at my partner for the mistakes.

It was if Spirit was saying: "You did good kid for being able to let go of the outcome even though you intended to win and you thought you didn't".

I had learned to let go. This is what you must do as well in order to manifest your dreams as quickly as possible.

So here are my intentions that I'm publically announcing (sometimes a little scary to be this authentic, but here goes!):

James and I skate a passionate, powerful pairs and singles programs to the best of our abilities with full presence; being in the moment.
We inspire others to skate with passion and joy.
We win three gold medals.
We thoroughly entertain the judges and the audience.
We have an amazingly fun time connecting with people and especially with my close friend Peter who will be coaching us there.

Here's how you can help us. Imagine all those intentions coming true and how that would feel for me and imagine how it would feel for you to have helped us achieve our intentions with grace and ease.

Just read the intentions, close your eyes and imagine a scene where it all comes true - the smiles, the applause, the warmth, the fun...

That's it. Just a minute. That's all it takes. And guess what? You just received an energy boost for your OWN dreams by doing this exercise for me. That's how it works in the holographic universe!

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
www.lawofattractioninlove.com

PS. please feel free to comment below to share any wisdom, well-wishes and prayers with us. Thanks again! You are AWESOME!

Why Did My Blissful Law of Attraction Relationship Turn Sour?

2010-04-02T14:16:00.004-04:00

Hi Dr. Karen,

About 3 years ago I began learning about the Law of Attraction. Single at the time, I immediately made a list of the qualities I desired in a partner and began imagining meeting him. It worked VERY quickly: in 10 days I'd met who I thought was The One. The first year or so was blissful, but I gradually realized that we had MAJOR differences and incompatibilities. Now, 2.5 years into the relationship, our couple is seriously in danger of breaking apart and it has become clear to me that this is not The One after all. My question is this: how did I attract the wrong guy by using what is supposed to be the right method?

Hoping to hear from you,
Katrin

Dear Katrin,

Great question and I’m glad you asked. You did a wonderful thing by intentionally manifesting your partner into your life. You took the time to make a list of qualities you desired in a partner and did your visualizations. Then 10 days later you met him! I hear many stories like yours so we know these Law of Attraction tools work.

So now things are going downhill and you can hardly believe why, and are questioning whether you attracted the wrong person in the first place. Well, I can understand why you’d believe that. We’ve all been conditioned from our parents, television, movies and society to believe that relationships are supposed to be blissful forever and that once you find the “right” person, you’re set for life…or at least it wouldn’t be this challenging?

Right? Ring true…even just a bit?

Here’s the thing. You didn’t attract the wrong guy. You attracted the right guy for where you were when you intentioned him into existence with the Law of Attraction. In other words, you attracted the right person for the level of consciousness you were vibrating at when you made your list. Are you with me so far?

So what went wrong? Well, here’s my perspective. Where we often go wrong in our relationships is that our expectations are unnatural. What do I mean by unnatural? OK, think of your relationship as a plant. What does a plant need to flourish? Water, sun, tender loving care right?

Do you know what most people do in relationship? They “fall asleep”. In other words, they do not nourish the “plant”. They do not tend to the plant on a regular basis. What would happen to a real life plant if one day, while admiring how beautiful it looked, you decided to suddenly stop watering it? After a few weeks, it would wither away and die wouldn’t it? What if you over-watered it and didn’t pay attention to its needs? It would also die.

In nature, something is either growing or dying. Another word for this is transformation. Nothing stands still…not even a rock (that is a quantum physics discussion I’m not going to go into right now). So if a plant is not growing, what is it doing?

It’s dying.

So in relationship, we are rarely taught as children as to how to tend to it, how to properly nourish it. We just assume that since it was beautiful to start with, it should remain so indefinitely.

This is an unnatural expectation!

Some would argue that they do indeed nourish their relationships. Their idea of nourishment means making sure they do their “half” of the chores, paying the bills, taking care of the children, going out eat once in a while, having sex etc. That is NOT what I’m talking about. The grand majority of people I know, myself included, go into a deep slumber when it comes to being conscious of how the relationship is growing or worse yet, if it is growing at all!

Here is how you know whether your relationship is growing:

You discover new things about yourself, how you tick, because of your relationship
You appreciate and discover new things about your partner, gifts you never recognized before
Conflict is less scary and you seem to be able to resolve them faster and easier, even if you disagree
You pursue your personal dreams – your mission – and your partner supports you in that or at least is neutral about it
You allow your partner to be who they are without trying to change them
You and your partner become more conscious of who you really are as individuals and why you attracted each other
You heal old patterns by practicing new ones with your partner
You’re willing to make mistakes in the relationship and learn from them instead of playing it safe all the time

This is not an inclusive list by far, but what I want to emphasize the most is that instead of expecting the relationship to stay the same, we ought to be focusing on actively growing it. We all want a heart-connected relationship, don’t we? But most of the time we get so wrapped up in our daily lives that we lose consciousness of nurturing the relationship. So why do relationships seem more difficult as time goes on? We attract the partners we do because they serve as our spiritual teachers and healing partners. Even abusive ones, believe it or not. Often they play the same role as our parents did so that we can heal our childhood hurts. We literally PULL from them the negative things we experienced as children. If someone had taught us long ago that our partners’ role is to be our teacher, we’d then appreciate them for giving us a new opportunity to HEAL our past hurts. But most people have no idea why they’ve chosen the partner they did. Our partners can highlight for us our deepest shadow…something so uncomfortable that you feel like running away. But if you realize that your partner is your teacher and you can become conscious of what he is bringing up for you, you can heal it. And that does not necessarily obligate you to continue the relationship in its current form (i.e. you can split up if you want to). Since most of us never went to Relationship School 101, myself included, we just muddle along the best we can. But truthfully, we all need guidance, mentorship and skilled support in the area of relationships. So do you want to know what James and I do? Firstly, we’ve committed to a couples session with our spiritual coach/healer on a monthly basis. Most of the time there is nothing “wrong”, but we go because we want to stay “awake” and we want to grow the relationship. It is amazing how quickly each of us can fall asleep! Without that objective third person to “see” through our old patterns, it can be very difficult to realize when we are getting caught up in them. I’m a huge proponent of preventive “therapy”. In other words, I feel that couples that truly wish to flourish for a long time need to be reconnecting in a deeper way either through couples coaching/counseling on a regular basis, or through spiritual retreats and workshops at least twice a year. As well, having a weekly or monthly couples ritual can be vitally energizing to the relationship. Why is it that people only seek “help” when their relationship is on the rocks? I’m sure you already know the answer to that question. Secondly, make sure you dedicate a weekly “Date Night” where the agenda is just fun and connection. Pick something you both like doing and don’t let anything get in the way of “Date night”. If you have to reschedule it on occasion that is fine, but see its importance just like any other important commitment you’ve made such as going to work, brushing your teeth, exercising, paying your mortgage, etc. So Katrin, are you ready to give up on your relationship? You can use the Law of Attraction again and again to intend the type of relationship you wish. It doesn’t end with just attraction The One. And remember, growing requires some degree of getting out of your comfort zone, so get some coaching, guidance and professional support, even if it is only for yourself. What you do not “heal” from your past in this relationship, will resurface in the next (thanks to the Law of Attraction). You cannot escape it. It is part of becoming the biggest, happiest SELF you can become. You might as well become conscious of what you are supposed be learning in this relationship before you abandon it completely. I believe in you. Blessings, Dr. Karen Kan www.lawofattractioninlove.com PS Let me know what you think of this article by commenting below. PPS As you may know, I’m an avid reader of all sorts of personal growth books. This month, I’m highly recommending these two books: Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beattie and The Power of Full Engagement by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz.

Mindfulness Meditation

2010-03-11T11:25:00.002-05:00

Deepak Chopra is one of the true Law of Attraction masters. I have enjoyed many of his books and videos and I thought I’d share one called Mindfulness Meditation. Our abilities to connect with that “quiet space” amidst a crazy busy life is key to manifesting our dreams. Our abilities to control our reaction to the thoughts that come up in our minds and choose other more peaceful thoughts is the real KEY to being successful in our manifesting.

Sounds weird, but it is all about MIND CONTROL.

So enjoy this lovely video by Deepak Chopra. Let me know what you think of it by commenting below.

Enjoy!

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
www.lawofattractioninlove.com

PS. There is another week or so for the special I’m offering. Purchase my eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life and receive a free pass to download all the 2009 Law of Attraction in Love Teleseminar Series (value $240) or purchase both the eBook and the Law of Attraction Home Study Course and get a FREE 30-min private coaching session from me as well (value $175)! And 50% of profits are donated to Haiti Relief. Hurry before this special ends!

The Olympics and the Law of Attraction

2010-03-01T12:48:00.002-05:00

So what does the Olympics have to do with YOU and your life? and with the Law of Attraction?

Plenty.

If you watched the Olympics on television, maybe you caught what I'm about to tell you, or maybe you didn't. And if you didn't watch the Olympics at all, I'll give you a summary of what you need to know to take advantage of the "lessons" that I noted.

After you read this, maybe you'll appreciate more of how Energy and the Law of Attraction plays in our lives each and every day. Synchronicity is increasing exponentially in my life experience. It is in yours too, but are you aware of it? As we end a world age (2012) and enter a new one, this is to be expected.

OK, so here's a little background. Biologist and author, Rupert Sheldrake is best known for his theory of morphogenic fields (M-fields) and morphic resonance. M-fields are invisible organizing patterns that act like energy templates to establish forms (i.e. manifesting into reality) on various levels of life. For example when Sir Roger Bannister broke the four-minute mile in running, he created a new M-field. The belief system prior to that momentus event was that the four-minute mile was not "humanly possible". After he broke it, suddenly many runners were able to run sub-four-minute miles!

Something very similar happened at the 2010 Olympics. The hosting country, Canada, where I grew up, had never won an Olympic Gold medal on home soil. Not in Montreal in 1976, not in Calgary in 1988. In fact, my brother, who lives in Canada, chuckled when he told me that one of the Canadian comedy channels did a parody of a well-known Canadian commercial intended to inspire Patriotism whereby the motto was "We're proud of the Olympic heritage of Canadian Bronze medals".

Thus there was a lot of "hype" about how desperate Canada was for a gold medal. The energy "field" prior to this Olympics was one in which Canada struggled, choked and just couldn't get the job done to win a single Gold on home soil. But a major shift occurred soon after the games began. Canadian mogul skiier, Alexandre Bilodeau won Canada's first Gold of the Vancouver games.

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Suddenly, it seemed that Bilodeau's victory created a new energy field, a new M-field, i.e. the template for other Canadians to win Gold as well. And win they did! Fourteen Gold medals in fact, more than any other country EVER in the history of the Winter Olympics! It is as if all the other Canadian athletes suddenly believed they too could win Gold.

And I believe that it was synchronistic that the CTV television channel that sold Olympic merchandise in Canada created their line of Vancouver 2010 clothing sporting the single-word logo, "Believe".

That's what I'm suggesting that YOU do. Believe. Once you've strived to do what in your mind was "impossible" previously, you'll create a new M-field for yourself (and others) and suddenly, what was so difficult before, will no longer be so. If you've struggled in relationship after relationship with patterns repeating itself, all it means is that you need to shift up to a new M-field, a new level of consciousness in order to break the cycle. The Law of Attraction states that whatever field of energy you are resonating predominantly is what you'll attract back to you.

Believe in yourself, in the goodness of others and in the future of this planet. When you spend energy becoming more conscious and coming closer to your True Divine Self, you can literally "jump" up to a higher energy field. But I have to be honest with you...few people ever make the jump. They often don't know there is even such a thing.

But now you know. (for more information on the subject of consciousness energy levels, refer to David Hawkins' book, Power vs. Force)

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When you watch the Olympics you cannot help but be moved and inspired. Whether it be mourning the loss of the luge athlete from the Republic of Georgia or the courage of the Canadian figure skater who lost her mother days before her event and skated to a bronze medal finish, or the success of athletes who had experience severe disappointment four or eight years ago only to taste the sweetness of success after not giving up, we feel all of it - it is part of our consciousness (whether you watched the Olympics or not).

By believing in yourself, you may be the one to create a new "M-field" for the rest of us to follow. Maybe you already have. It only takes a few people of higher consciousness to elevate the consciousness of a nation. When you believe in yourself and what you can co-create in this world for happiness and joy, you help everyone on this planet.

Belief underlies all manifestation. It is the core of the Law of Attraction. I believe in you.

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan

P.S. Let me know what you think about this by commenting on my BLOG
P.P.S. Because I've been so enthralled with following the Olympics, I haven't reminded you about the "LOVE" Special which I'm extending into the middle of March:

Purchase my eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life and receive a free pass to download all the 2009 Law of Attraction in Love Teleseminar Series (value $240) or purchase both the eBook and the Law of Attraction Home Study Course and get a FREE 30-min private coaching session from me as well (value $175)! And 50% of profits are donated to Haiti Relief.

Attracting Love By Reprogramming Your Subconscious Mind

2010-02-21T00:13:00.000-05:00

For this Monday's radio show, I will be interviewing Eldon Taylor about his patented subliminal technology that helps to rewire the subconscious mind in thinking positive rather than negative thoughts. I will be asking him to describe how this technology can help you attract the ideal partner of your dreams.

For the past 30 years, Eldon Taylor has researched the power of the mind. He has earned doctoral degrees in psychology and metaphysics and his work has been featured on numerous radio and televisions shows as well in documentaries. He is a Fellow in the American Psychotherapy Association (APA) and a Diplomat in The Academy of Certified Chaplains. He has presented seminars and workshops around the country and across the globe.

The cornerstones to Eldon’s work are quite simple and have remained constant over the 30 years that he has publicly shared them. He refers to them as the four corners of success: forgiveness, gratitude, self-responsibility and service. In his latest books, Choices and Illusions and Mind Programming, Eldon shares his own story as he integrates it with his work and research. He casts a bright light on how and why we have self-imposed limitations and false self-images, and demonstrates how we can retrain the mind and leave negative self-sabotaging, self-limiting patterns in the past. Moreover, he shows us how we can change our lives today! Indeed, he makes the process of change so simple and clear that his readers and listeners can enjoy happier, healthier lives almost immediately—without having to buy anything.

Here are the details:

Monday February 22, 2010 at 12 noon EST

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www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren

Call in number: 347-945-6313

Hit "1" if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question

The show will be broadcast live at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen

Love in 90 Days: Interview with Dr. Diana Kirschner

2010-02-13T04:55:00.001-05:00

Single women everywhere are looking for love, and asking the same questions over and over: “Why hasn’t he called?” “Why am I attracted to the wrong guys?” “Should I date him or dump him?” Psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner helps women answer these questions once and for all in her bestselling book, Love In 90 Days.

According to Dr. Diana, one of the biggest reasons many women don’t find true love is they should have dumped the DUD (Definitely Unworkable Dude) they’ve been dating a long time ago!

How do you know whether to DUMP HIM or KEEP DATING HIM? This Monday, Dr. Diana can share the top 16 most popular DATING GAMES MEN PLAY (from the brand new chapter in the book) and help you decide whether his behavior is worth putting up with and how to successfully keep DATING HIM OR whether it’s time to DUMP HIM once and for all and find the love you deserve!

Diana Kirschner Ph.D.'s bestselling dating advice book, Love in 90 Days, is the basis for her PBS Special. It’s just out in paperback with a new chapter on Dating Games Men Play. In January, 2009 Fox's Morning Show issued an official challenge to Dr. Diana: Could she really help someone to find love in just 90 days? Over 13 consecutive weeks Fox viewers watched and ratings hit an all-time high, as Dr. Diana helped dating-challenged Amelia go from zero dates to having 12 great prospects to a dramatic finale where a beaming Amelia found the One.

Dr. Diana is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show and has appeared on: Oprah & Access Hollywood. She has been quoted as a love expert in The New York Times, USA Today, Cosmopolitan & People magazines. Her new Ultimate Secrets to Finding the Love You Want text message program is now available by texting “love” to 484848. Dr. Diana has hundreds of dollars in free bonus gifts for the first 500 who order the Love in 90 Days paperback or her Ultimate Secrets text message program at www.lovein90days.com

Here are the details for the show:

Monday February 15 at 12 noon EST

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www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren

Call in number: 347-945-6313

Hit "1" if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question

The show will be broadcast live at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen

If He's Not The One, Who Is? - Interview with Lisa Steadman

2010-02-07T07:04:00.002-05:00

For the second time, we have relationship journalist Lisa Steadman joining us tomorrow on our LOAIL radio show.

“Is he Mr. Next or Mr. Right?” This is one of the thought-provoking questions posed in her latest book, “If He’s Not the One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right” This book is a sequel to Steadman’s previous best seller, “It’s a Breakup, Not a Breakdown,” which she wrote after enduring a heart wrenching breakup herself five years ago.

In the book, Steadman includes exercises and quizzes to assist the reader in learning from her past and getting clear about her life, leading up to the million dollar question: “Is he Mr. Next or Mr. Right?” The book also details common pitfalls women fall prey to in relationships, how to get unstuck, types of men to steer clear of, and practical advice on how to date, all delivered with Steadman’s light, humorous style. After getting back out there and dating, Steadman warns against having a scarcity mentality and projecting all of your expectations onto one person. She recommends you ask yourself if the man you are dating meets your needs and if he shares your values and long-term goals. If the answer is no, get out immediately or set a deadline to do so.

Join us tomorrow for an exciting discussion!

Here are the details:

Monday February 8, 2010 at 12 noon EST

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www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren

Call in number: 347-945-6313

Hit "1" if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question

The show will be broadcast live at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.

“Your chance at love didn’t go out the door when your ex did,” says Steadman. “I wrote this book to help women reinvent themselves after a breakup and give them the tools to get out there and attract Mr. Next…and eventually Mr. Right.”

Blessings,

Dr. Karen

Attracting More Money

2010-02-05T07:27:00.003-05:00

Dear Dr. Karen,

Money is energy, and I emanate my own energy from within and attract to me what is compatible to my energy frequency, how can I attract money to me so that I don’t end up working myself to the bone only to end up barely above water when I’m an old man?

Kelvin

Dear Kelvin,

You are correct in saying that money is energy and that in order to attract money, you must radiate the “ideal” money-coherent frequency. So the good news is that you already UNDERSTAND the concept of what must happen in order to attract money into your life.

The seven steps of manifesting that I teach in my eBook and my Home Study Course are the same whether you are manifesting love in your life or more money. What I’ve found is that step number 5, which deals with Obstacles, can be the most stubborn when it comes to money.

Many of us grew up with negative money beliefs, some of which we are not even aware of. The subconscious negative beliefs about money and wealth are the MAIN reasons that hamper people from consciously using the Law of Attraction to attract more money. In other words, it isn’t about how much schooling you received, whether you are smart enough or even if you work hard enough. It boils down to your beliefs!

There is a saying amongst Law of Attraction teachers that goes something like this: Your income will be the average of the income of the five closest people you hang out with. Now I’m not saying to go out today and ditch your “poor” friends, but seriously, unless you make an effort to learn to get to know and emulate powerful, enlightened wealthy people, your chances of money success is next to nil!

I’ll share with you what I’ve found most helpful for myself. First is a free teleseminar about your money beliefs and how they affect your success:

www.secretstomoney.info

Next is a list of books I recommend that you start devouring immediately!

Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker
Millionaire Maker, Loral Langemeier
Cash Machine for Life, Loral Langemeier
The Four Hour Work Week, Tim Ferris
Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki
Put More Cash in Your Pocket, Loral Langemeier
Who Do You Think You Are? Keith Leon

Here’s some general pointers:

You need to learn to take interest in managing money, even if you have to fake it initially. The Universe will not give you MORE until you have demonstrated that you can handle more.
Clarity breeds better intentions. If you don’t know what your “profit-loss” numbers are on a monthly basis, start doing this today. It isn’t hard (check out Millionaire Maker for instructions)
Money does not come into chaos.
If you don’t good reasons for the amount of money you want to attract, you won’t get it. So become clear on what you wish to DO with the money and how much it will actually cost.
The people who get paid the most usually help the most people.
Change your money language.

Notice what you said above: so that I don’t end up working myself to the bone only to end up barely above water when I’m an old man?

That sentence is chock full of old beliefs and attitudes that no longer serve your higher purpose. Can you see that now? What I’m hearing is the belief that one must work HARD (to the bone even!) for a LONG time to earn lots of money. The “barely above water” is a really strong SCARCITY phrase and I encourage you to get rid of this type of language from your vocabulary starting right now.

There are big No-No phrases if you’re using the Law of Attraction to attract more money:

We can’t afford it (if you say it, it will be true for you)
That’s too expensive (scarcity energy)
Must be nice! (to be able to afford such-and-such…envy energy)
Money doesn’t grow trees (of course it does…it is made of paper isn’t it?)
I just want enough to be comfortable (comfort is highly overrated and not a single wealthy person got there by being comfortable!)
Materialism is bad (no it isn’t, it just depends on your intentions)
Money is the root of all evil (money is just energy remember?)

Here are positive things to do:

When you see someone who seems wealthy, appreciate them instead of being envious – and tell yourself, if they can do it, so can I
Appreciate beautiful material things, even if you don’t plan on buying them. Anti-materialism will keep you poor for sure!
Grow out of your comfort zone and get some professional coaching to help you find out what your passions are and how you can make money from them.

Learning how to become wealthy requires intensive but FUN study. You’ll learn to use your GIFTS in a way that serves as many people as possible. It is part of your Life Mission!

I believe in you.

Dr. Karen Kan

PS:

February is LOVE month, so I’d like to share a valuable offer. As most of you know, Haiti and those that lost loved-ones have been on our minds and in our prayers since the earthquake in January. For the month of February, I’m donating 50% of the profits from my eBook and Law of Attraction Home Study Course sales to Haiti.

Please help me in giving to them (as well as giving to yourself)! Here are the links:

Creating Your Fairytale Love Life eBook

Law of Attraction in Love Home Study Course

Thank you in advance!

Blessings,

Dr. Karen

Monday’s Radio Show: How to Create a Magical Relationship

2010-01-01T13:30:00.001-05:00

Join me for Monday's Law of Attraction in Love Radio Show: How to Create a Magical Relationship. I'm interviewing a fantastic woman who I met at a personal development training recently. Her name is Carele Belanger (pronounced the French way for all you folks from France and Canada!)

After many courses in the holistics field, in 2005 Carele Belanger earned her certificate as Master Practictioner NLP, (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). As an Achievement Coach, she guides her female clients to totally love themselves, stand up for themselves and to embody their Goddess within.

She believes that YOU can manifest a magical relationship. And she's going to help you do just that!

Carele's mission is to enlighten and empower women so they can be wealthy in all parts of their life. From that mission was born the Enlightened-Women website, the only Resources Website for women. www.enlightened-women.com

During the show, she'll teach you how to:

- Create the person you want to attract (in detail)
- Understand the subtleties of compromise and self-respect
- How love relationships can be Magical!

We look forward to having you call in and ask live questions during the show! Here's how:

Monday January 4th at 12PM noon (www.timezoneconverter.com)
Listen via web: www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren
Call in live: 347-945-6313 and dial "1" to put your hand up so I can see that you wish to ask a question.

And if you can't listen in at noon, you can always download the archived show free of charge on blog talk radio! Enjoy!

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
www.lawofattractioninlove.com

Why Am I attracting things I don't want?!

2009-12-16T09:51:00.000-05:00

After some deliberation of what's been "going on" in the world lately, I decided to defer this month's teleseminar topic regarding Sexual Polarity until 2010. Instead, the topic will be:

Why Am I Attracting Things I Don’t Want? Advanced Law of Attraction

I don't know if you've noticed, but there has been some chaotic energy running around lately. Lots of people getting sick, hospitalized, dying...intense weather patterns around the world. Last week I had a young patient burst out in tears for no reason in my office and later at our dance class, another child cried and whined uncharacteristically. My own honey had an emotional "blow-up" at the rink and several friends were having intense PMS.

Did you feel it?

Guess what? If you did, maybe you thought it was "all you". Well, it isn't. We're all connected remember? I realized a couple years ago that whenever a big typhoon or earthquake hit anywhere in the world, I'd become uncharacteristically "sleepy-tired" for days. Usually I couldn't pin point the cause until some newsflash over the internet caught my eye as I was internet surfing for unrelated information.

So this week's teleseminar is going to talk all about this kind of stuff. If you've had questions like:

I'm making my Law of Attraction intentions and it seems like the opposite to what I want is happening?
I'm doing everything I'm supposed to according to what I've read on the Law of Attraction, but nothing is working!
How come my life became a "disaster" after just making one intention/wish?
When things I don't want "appear" in my life, does that mean I did something wrong? or does it mean I should change my direction?
When obstacles appear that block what I want, what should I do? Does it mean what I want is not good for me?
If we attract everything in our lives, how can you say an innocent baby attracted sexual abuse?

Please join me for the last Law of Attraction teleseminar of the year! The details are below:

Thursday December 17, 2009

7:30PM – 8:25PM EST/EDT www.timezoneconverter.com

Conference Call number 712-432-3900

Conference Access Code 7677512#

If you can't make it, you can access the recording free of charge if you are a MEMBER of Law of Attraction in Love.

Please join me Thursday! I'll be making a special offer at the end, so you don't want to miss it. First come first serve!

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

www.lawofattractioninlove.com

Dear Dr. Karen: How Do I Win Her Love?

2009-12-02T08:21:00.003-05:00

Dear Dr. Karen:

I am Joseph from Aberdeen UK. I have a friend for over 5 years now in Nigeria. And I left the country last year 2008. She has values, beliefs and desirable qualities I require in a woman. She doesn’t really want to show me she cares all these years. I have let her know that I love her and also spoken to her about the future. Please I need a dating advice from you. I really want to win her love. Many thanks.

Regards

Joseph

Dear Joseph:

Thanks for writing. Did you say years?

Let me get this straight. You’ve been in love with this woman for years, have told her that you love her and shared with her your desires for your future together and she doesn’t really want to show you she cares all these years?

Well, it is great that she has values, beliefs and desirable qualities you resonate with. That’s a good start. But after being friends for years, don’t you think you’ve waited a long time to have your affections reciprocated? And now you live thousands of miles away!

I’ve heard of a woman playing hard to get, but I’m not getting any sense from you that she is even trying to vie for your attentions. So my question to you is, what exactly are you looking for from this woman? And how can this be the woman you desire if she does not desire you? Years is long enough for her to figure it out don’t you think?

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Well, it’s not really a secret, but many people don’t realize this: that the world is changing faster and faster. And what that means for you is that years is definitely TOO long not to move forward with your life! That’s not to say that learning dating skills won’t be helpful. And learning to understand women is even more helpful.

Here’s what I know. There is a woman (or more than one) out “there” who can’t wait to be with you. Someone who adores you just as you adore her. You don’t have to change yourself just so she will love you. She will love you as you are. Believe it. Feel it – and it will be yours.

You deserve it.

Just because you love this woman you’ve set your sights on doesn’t mean you can’t love another! Instead, use the love you feel to create and attract an even better match. Let go emotionally of being with THIS particular woman. In fact, I’d encourage you to ask her point blank whether she is romantically interested in you or not, and to let her know that it is OK if she isn’t because you’ll learn to move on. You just need to know the truth. Women have a way of not telling the truth because they don’t want to hurt your feelings.

If you can show her that you are “man” (i.e. strong) enough to take the truth, you’ll get it. She needs to know you won’t crumble. And it’s about time that you free yourself of anything and anyone who would slow your growth into the love you desire.

Change is happening much faster in our world now. You cannot “afford” to keep waiting for your life to happen. You deserve to experience life and love like never before.

For your growth and education, I’d highly recommend that you read books by David Deida: www.deida.info especially, The Way of the Superior Man, which you can find in my Law of Attraction in Love Bookstore. When you start to resonate at your most enlightened masculine self, you’d be AMAZED at the women (and the quality of women) you attract! Best to you Joseph!

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
www.lawofattractioninlove.com

THANK YOU!

2009-11-26T07:58:00.001-05:00

Here in America, we are celebrating Thanksgiving, a time where we celebrate all that we enjoy in our lives, for the people we have to love and the opportunities we have to connect. So I'd like to take this opportunity to THANK YOU for being part of my special Law of Attraction in Love community!

That you for trusting me to guide you through your relationship questions on my radio show and blog. Thank you using my eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life, which gives you the formula to manifest your ideal partner. (and if you need a copy, just click on the image on the side). Thank you for listening or participating on my teleseminars and for your wonderful letters!!

Lastly, I'd like to thank you, in advance, for considering putting up YOUR Law of Attraction in Love Story through our video contest! Your story can inspire millions, so if you feel drawn to express yourself, please submit your entry. Deadline is December 1st!

Even though we have one day of formal celebration and thanks, you know that everyday is an opportunity to be grateful. What we "appreciate" comes back to us many fold from The Universe.

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan

Most Important Teleseminar of the Year

2009-11-16T04:29:00.001-05:00

This month's teleseminar topic will be an important one. Knowing what to say to your partner or potential partner and how to say it, can make ALL the difference in the world as to whether you have a peaceful relationship or World War III.

When we are getting along with our partners (or anyone else for that matter), we never have to think hard about how to communicate. But eventually in all relationships, even "dream" relationships, conflicts surface. Guess what? They are supposed to. It is part of your healing and growth.

So what do you do when you feel your partner isn't listening to you? How do you communicate regarding a "touchy" subject? How do you bring up a topic that is uncomfortable but obviously needs addressing in your relationships? How can you communicate in the middle of a conflict that won't get both of you more upset?

Don't know? Not sure?

That's OK. We'll be addressing these questions in this month's teleseminar entitled:

Communication Skills for Loving Peaceful Relationships.

Here's the good news. Every GREAT relationship relies on communication skills. These skills are learned and practiced (you're not supposed to be perfect at them!). So even if you're not in a romantic relationship now, you can practice these skills on everyone else around you! You'll be thankful you did.

Please join me for this FREE teleseminar on Thursday November 19th at 7:30PM EST. Details below.

Conference number 712-432-3900
 Access Code 7677512#

If you can't make this, you can still download the recording if you're a MEMBER.

Talk to you Thursday!

Blessings,

Dr. Karen

P.S. Remember to enter our Law of Attraction in Love Video Contest! You can win free coaching or a free year's subscription to our MEMBERSHIP site!

Radio Show Monday: Love Your Body, Love Your Life

2009-11-14T10:42:00.001-05:00

Join me on this Monday's radio show as I will be interviewing Sarah Maria. Sarah Maria is a body-image expert who helps people love their bodies no matter how they look. She shows people how to discover the beauty that is already inside of them, right now, in this moment. Once they connect with this beauty, they will discover that anything is possible - that they can create a body and a life that they truly love.

Sarah Maria’s mission is to create a world where every person sees this beauty in themselves and in others. In her book, Love Your Body, Love Your Life she outlines a five-step process designed to help people break free from Negative Body Obsession and discover the beauty that they already have inside of them.

Sarah Maria has trained with well-known teachers and physicians, including Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Simon, Wayne Dyer, and Jack Canfield, among others. Her work has been endorsed by Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Simon, and NY Times best-selling author Marci Shimoff, as well as many other notable physicians, psychologists, and educators. Before writing her first book, she received a law degree from Stanford and a Master's degree in international affairs from Columbia University.

Here are the details:

Monday November 16, 2009 at 12 noon EST

www.timezoneconverter.com

www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren

Call in number: 347-945-6313

Hit “1″ if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question

The show will be broadcast live at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen

Flirting Without Being Too Obvious

2009-11-11T08:08:00.000-05:00

Dear Dr. Karen,

Does he like me? Is he just being friendly? And has the window closed?

Okay, new guy at work. Very attractive. So all my female co-workers are all over him. However, although he’s attractive, I am not as forward as them. He turned down their advances. He started talking to me, right away. Sometimes we talk for a hours at work. He comes by cubicle all the time. Sometimes I think he’s interested because he will say things like, what type of guys you like, what are you doing this weekend...etc.

He smiles or says Hi every time we pass each other, and there are times that if I am in another vicinity of the office, he will be there 5 minutes later! It’s weird. I caught him staring at me on numerous occasions. He also used to ask me for the lunch menu at our local diner, than I found out he never even visited that place! Also, other co-workers that did not talk to me, talk to me now, I believe because of him and our ''friendship''.

He hasn’t asked me for my number. Also, I don’t pick up on cues, (because I’ve been told that he has dropped subtle hints) so, I’m thinking he may think I’m not interested anymore, and sometimes, I think maybe he’s just being friendly. How do I step it up without being overt. Ooh...he is the new guy, and due to everyone fawning on him, he has been staying low-key...which makes me nervous talking to him.

What should I make of this?

Sijay

Dear Sijay,

The first thought that came to my mind when I read your letter was, “What a delightfully fun position to be in!”

Sijay, if you’re getting feedback from others (whom you trust) that the New Guy is dropping hints, then he is either interested in you or he is playing a game where he wants you to be interested in him because he is used to all the attention and can’t seem to get yours!

So Sijay, it feels as if you could use lessons in creative flirting. Flirting has been given a “bad name” over the years, but actually, what it entails is energetic play. It is like a dance. There is inappropriate flirting – “coming onto” someone sexually just to manipulate them and get attention. However, there is safe and fun flirting that is connecting and enjoyable without being manipulative.

Since your style is not to be too forward (which probably got his attention in the first place), my suggestion to you is the engage in “flirting” by asking questions and stating your observations. Start with neutral questions and observations.

Here are a few suggestions you can play around with in your mind to see if they resonate with you:

While you’re in conversation with the New Guy, you might suddenly say:

YOU: You know what, New Guy? I’ve made an interesting observation.

HIM: Really? What?

YOU: I’ve noticed that ever since you came to work in this office, all the women here have been clamoring over you. What’s that been like for you? So what’s it like getting all this attention?

HIM: (blushing) ah, er, really? Or he might say,

HIM: Nah, I’m not interested in them.

YOU: Yes, really. Haven’t you noticed? Or

YOU: So you’re not interested in them? Really? So is there someone special in your life you’re not telling us about? Or

YOU: Gee, I was wondering about what kind of person you would be interested in?

YOU: Hmmm, you’re not playing “hard to get” are you?

Next time he asks you questions like

HIM: What are you doing this weekend?

You might wish to get up the courage to answer,

YOU: Why, are you going to ask me out?

or maybe you could be more creative and say,

YOU: Well, I’d absolutely LOVE to see the new movie, X, this weekend, but I don’t really feel like going alone….so
what are you up to?

Then you can see if he takes the hint. If he’s been hinting to you and is truly interested, then he may bite. If he’s playing around or you’re being too subtle for him, he may not.

You can also subtly call him on his antics:

YOU: Gee, you know, you asked me for the menu from the local diner, but you haven’t been there have you? I was wondering why you wanted it?

You’ll be pretty safe asking questions. You can also give genuine compliments. For example, when I first met my dream partner, James, I noticed his beautiful smile. So I complimented him on it. I wasn’t trying to flirt. I was just appreciating his beauty. Well! That really got his attention because apparently, he had no idea that he was good looking! Amazing isn’t it?

So find something genuinely interesting or attractive about the New Guy (assuming you ARE interested in him) and share your appreciations. It can go something like:

YOU: You know what I appreciate about you New Guy? You have the warmest smile/greatest laugh/very attractive eyes.

Or

YOU: You know what I appreciate about you New Guy? Whenever I see you, it makes my day because you really know how to make me feel comfortable/make me laugh/ make me smile etc.

OK, enough flirting lessons for the day. The bottom line is this: you’re going to have to stretch a little out of your comfort zone to test the waters. It doesn’t mean that this guy is THE ONE you’ll spend the rest of your life with, but every relationship helps you learn more about yourself. Let this relationship be a springboard for your personal growth.

Happy Flirting, (and tell us what happens!)
Dr. Karen Kan

Attracting Love Through Presence and Joy Rather Than Through Woundedness

2009-11-06T08:47:00.002-05:00

Firstly, if you haven't yet checked out our video story contest, please do that here! I get a lot of people writing me about how my Creating Your Fairytale Love Life eBook, newsletters, blog posts, teleseminars or radio shows have helped them. I'd like to reward those who'd be willing to share their story on video because they'd be helping countless others who need inspiration.

So if you'd like to earn a great prize, or just to feel good about yourself, please submit your video. Contest rules are on www.lawofattractioninlove.com/videocontest.

Speaking of radio shows, I have a brand new one coming up Monday! I'll be interviewing spiritual healer and relationship counselor Patricia Lee Jones for a special segment that we can all benefit from. Pat is my personal couples counselor and spiritual healer and I'm sharing her wisdom with you!

Many if not most people get attracted to their mates through the unconscious vibration of their childhood traumas. I know that was true of my first husband. We weren't aware of it at the time, but we were both needy of love and for whatever reason, felt unworthy of love at the same time despite different childhood experiences.

It is so easy to connect with someone who has gone through similar trauma. Thus we often attract each other through our woundedness. In my radio interview with Patricia Lee Jones, we'll be discussing how we can move OUT of that dynamic into a new relationship paradigm that celebrates our wholeness.

A relationship based on presence and joy is so much more enjoyable, rich and satisfying than any relationship created through woundedness. I want this for you. So please tune in to the radio show or download the archive show. Here are the details below:

Here are the details:
Monday November 9, 2009 at 12 noon EDT
www.timezoneconverter.com
www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren

Call in number: 347-945-6313
Hit "1" if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question

The show will be broadcast live at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.

I look forward to connecting with you on Monday!

Blessings,
Dr. Karen
www.lawofattractioninlove.com
PS. If there is a topic you'd like me to cover for this month's Law of Attraction in Love Teleseminar, then please let me know by filling out the Ask Dr. Karen form on the home page.

Special Announcment from Law of Attraction in Love

2009-11-02T00:35:00.001-05:00

YOUR NAME, you've won a FREE coaching session with Dr. Karen!

Wouldn't you love to see that in an email? This CAN be your reality if you want it! Yes! You can win a free one-on-one coaching session with Dr. Karen worth $250 by entering our Law of Attraction in Love Video Contest.

What is this video contest about? Well, it's about sharing your story with the world on how learning about the Law of Attraction in Love has changed your life and inspiring countless others to "go for" their dreams.

Have you learned something from the Law of Attraction in Love blog that has changed your life? Or have you resonated Dr. Karen's answers in her Ask Dr. Karen newsletters? Or maybe you're read her eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life and have already found your soulmate. Or you love the radio show.

If we've made a difference in your life, we want to know about it! And so do others! Other people need to hear success stories. If they see you doing it, they feel they can do it too. Let's inspire the world together!

What you do is simple, just go to www.lawofattractioninlove.com/videocontest to read how to submit a video with your story. The deadline is December 1st, so do it right away!

You can choose from two prizes if you win: a free coaching session with Dr. Karen or a one year Law of Attraction in Love Membership subscription where you get to download recordings of all the teleseminars, sample coaching calls, and see some of Dr. Karen's video trainings!

And here's the REALLY great news. Just by submitting your video, you automatically receive the opportunity to be one of our Law of Attraction in Love affiliates! That means that you can have your personalized link to our site that you can share with friends and if they make a purchase of one of our downloadable books or programs, you get paid a heft commission!

So go right now to www.lawofattractioninlove.com/videocontest for details. Read the rules carefully! We want everyone to be a "winner".

Blessings,

The Law of Attraction in Love Support Team

www.lawofattractioninlove.com

P.S. Some people might be a bit shy, and you'd be surprised how many people aren't confident about winning. Instead of worrying about your competition, just inten d to win and put your heart out there to inspire others! WE believe in you!

Radio Show Monday: Why We Attract the People We Do

2009-10-24T10:47:00.001-04:00

Do you often wonder how and why you attract a particular person or type? Join me and Michael Sherman as we talk about what an Imago Match is - the idea that we attract someone to us who is a match to our subconscious imprint that was developed in childhood – and why that creates such wonderful romance in the beginning, how it naturally evolves into power struggle, and how conflict can be resolved with Imago dialogue.

Michael Sherman is the Founder of Courageous Loving, an organization based in Nyack, NY, devoted to personal growth and relationship training. A writer, coach, trainer and multimedia producer, Michael has worked with thousands of people to help them to answer this question: ‘Who are my relationships calling me to become?” Michael brings an energizing and humorous approach to his work, whether it be enlightening people with insights into their personal relationships, or elevating business people to become attractive leaders in their professional lives. He and his wife, Amy, a therapist and trainer in her own right, are together building a growing nation of Courageous Lovers.

Here are the details:
Monday October 26, 2009 at 12 noon EDT
www.timezoneconverter.com"
www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren

Call in number: 347-945-6313
Hit "1" if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question

The show will be broadcast live at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.

Dear Dr. Karen: Am I Madly in Love or Not?

2009-10-16T09:00:00.000-04:00

Dr. Karen,

I do not know what this is all about. But I am madly in love or not?? I really do not know what to call it as.

I am so much attracted to this man. We have been together for three years now. We broke up a while back because I blew up the issue as he was dating other women. For him I am just one of many, but for me he is everything.

The word Man means only him to me. Anyone walking tall on the road reminds me of him, if I see any pair on the road I think only of him. Any romantic scene on TV reminds me of him. I know very well that our frequencies never match and we are not the made for each other...but above all this there is something which makes me crave for him all the more. I am angry over him - as he did not treat me with self respect, used me when he did not have the confidence to lure other women. But now I am of no significance to him. It hurts. That is the reason I broke up with him. Maybe I would have handled this better if only he would have told it straight that he used me. I cannot take it in that he played with me.

But above all this anger, I am unable to hate him. I feel something for him which I cannot describe in words and which cannot be erased. Can you help me out!!! This is neither letting me live nor die..

Lawen

Dear Lawen,

I can answer you simply. No, it is not love.

Why not?

Because true love is free and unconditional. What you have instead is an addiction. Yes, an addiction. You are addicted to the chemical hormones coursing through the cells of your body and you are “high” from your feelings of longing as well as your feelings of anger. It makes you feel alive.

Your intuition has already told you that “your frequencies never match”, yet you pursue him. And I can make a couple of guesses why you do. One possibility is that when you were young, there was someone in your life that you could not “have”. You couldn’t get enough attention from that person, a parent perhaps. Maybe that parent was unfaithful or untrustworthy.

I’ve seen countless examples of how adults who were abused as children still long for their parent to love them despite the obvious evidence that they do not have the capacity to do so. You could be repeating an unconscious pattern from your childhood that “makes you” addicted to pursuing the love and attention you never received as a child.

So you have a decision to make. You can continue on your unrewarding pursuit of an addiction, with its highs and lows, and never feel the true joy of a truly loving relationship. Or, you can get some help to free yourself from your current addiction.

Don’t underestimate the power of your addiction. You will need help and support to neutralize it. It will take time and lot of self-compassion. It has nothing to do with “him” and everything to do with your own conditioning. He just represents a part of you that you need to heal. His unfaithfulness to you is a blessing. It hurts, yes, but it is an opportunity. It is an opportunity for you to truly LOVE yourself first.

If you truly LOVE yourself fully, then you would never desire to be with someone who treats you less than you wish to be treated. There’s the key. You actually don’t love yourself enough to let go and realize that there are plenty of other men out there who WILL love you and be faithful to you. But it starts with changing YOU.

Bottom line, go get some professional help. You don’t have to do this alone. I believe in you.

Blessings,
Dr Karen Kan

Join me tonight for a FREE teleseminar!

2009-10-15T03:54:00.001-04:00

It's been a super-busy month and a fun one at that. I hope you can join me this Thursday evening for a FREE 50 minute teleseminar and coaching session focused on everything to do with the Law of Attraction. This call will be recorded and available in the MEMBERS section (http://lawofattractioninlove.com/membership/) of the Law of Attraction website soon afterwards in case you can't make the call but want to listen to it.

Here's some of the questions you may wish to ask and the material we'll cover

- When synchronicities happen in my life, what do they mean and what should I do when it happens?
- What CAN the Law of Attraction do for you and what CAN'T it do for you.
- Why even Law of Attraction gurus/teachers can have "bad" things happen to them and what it means for you?
- How many negative thoughts do you have to have before you manifest negative things in your life?
- If someone is really powerful or a great manifester, will they overpower YOUR wishes or intentions?
- Why are we taught that we need only ask the Universe once for what we want yet are also told to focus daily on what we want? Is there some controversy here?
- When "bad" things happen to "good" people...what does that all mean?
- Can you really use the Law of Attraction to bring back an old relationship?

The format for this month's teleseminar will be a little different in that whoever is on the call will have priority to ask his or her Law of Attraction questions LIVE and I will coach you personally. Depending on the number of people on the call, we'll probably spend about 5-7 minutes per person so we can get through some of our material.

What's great about this group-format coaching is that one: it's free! Second, you get your question answered personally by me. No need to wait days, weeks or months to see it published on my blog or newsletter. Thirdly, it helps others by listening to your questions and hearing how I coach you.

Here's the teleseminar info for Thursday:

Thursday October 15th 7:30PM - 8:20PM
Conference number 712-432-3900
Access Code 7677512#

If you have Skype, you don't have to pay long distance charges. I look forward to speaking with you then!

And by the way, today we had our Ask Dr. Karen segment on Blog Talk Radio Law of Attraction in Love show where I answered a bunch of great questions from people, so please check it out and listen to the archives at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
PS. please connect with me on Twitter! http://www.twitter.com/karenkan

Dear Dr. Karen: Do You Only Have to Ask Once for the Law of Attraction to Work?

2009-10-13T09:00:00.002-04:00

Dr. Karen,

My question now is: I have read many, many, articles on the laws of attraction and others have stated that ''you need only ask once'' and it will come to pass. However, reading your article, you have said that thinking about it most often (in other words of course) it will come to pass. Which do you believe to be the correct way of thinking?

Thank you for your time.

Anna

Dear Anna,

Great question Anna. Let me rephrase it. It sounds like you’ve read that you only need to ask The Universe once in order to manifest your wish. At the same time, after reading my article, you perceived that you must think about your wish over and over again in order to manifest it. Is that right?

OK, here’s how it works, at least in my understanding. What is true is that you only need to ASK the Universe one time for your wish. Then, after asking, or in other words, setting your intention, you need to let it go.

And here’s where you need to pay attention!

What you need to let go of is the ATTACHMENT to your wish coming true. What you DON’T let go of is the passion, excitement and energy directed towards your dream/wish/intention.

When you order from the menu in a restaurant, you order once and then wait patiently for your meal to come, don’t you? You enjoy your wait. You don’t fret ever two minutes why your meal hasn’t come yet nor do you ask the waiter countless times whether he got your order. But you know what most of us do? We fret about our “order”!

When we set intentions, sometimes we lose faith that our “order” will come, so we either ask again and again out of anxiety, or we change course (change our minds). The latter is very common. I’ve witness many people discover a dream they wish to manifest. They become all fired up about it. But within a short period of time, they lose their faith and stop pursuing their dreams. Why? Because they don’t trust themselves to be completely responsible for CREATING their dreams.

Now, what I (and many others) teach is that once you set your intention, your focus needs to stay on your target (final outcome) or wish. You are not asking. You are planning for it. You don’t let distractions or obstacles prevent you from believing in your dream and taking the next step towards it.

I’ll give you an example. Say your wish is to swim with the dolphins. Once you’ve chosen the details of your wish, what do you do next? (please read the rest on my blog) Do you sit on the couch and watch movies all day? Will that get you closer to your dream? No, of course not. Will looking at pictures and movies about swimming with dolphins help? Yes, because they will get you in the vibration of already having experienced it (to the best of your imagination). But you need more than that.

Doing embodying exercises (see Chapter 2 in the eBook) will help you get into the vibration of having received. That is an “inner world” exercise. Then doing the “outer world” exercises of taking action in the real world take it to the next level. You cannot just have one without the other.

Your next step is “acting as if”. Your ACTIONS determine what happens. The Universe responds to the amount of energy you put forth in the direction of your wish. In our example, you would go and search the internet for dolphin experiences or search a travel guide. You would check out plane ticket costs, book time off from work, save money towards the trip etc. As the saying goes,

“Where attention goes, energy flows and results show”

Hope that clears up your confusion about the Law of Attraction and intention setting.

Blessings
Dr. Karen Kan

Hi, it's Dr. Karen and I need your vote!

2009-10-07T04:54:00.002-04:00

Have you ever had the experience of something changing your life so profoundly that you wanted to share it with the world? Well, that happened to me after I attended Peak Potentials Millionaire Mind Intensive. Even though the focus was "money", what I realized was that the REAL focus was about my RELATIONSHIP with money.

You see my relationship with money was on very "bad terms". Little did I realize until I took that transformative three-day weekend course (which was practically FREE), that my negative thoughts about money would prevent me from fully manifesting abundance in OTHER areas of my life including health.

Well, I need your help because my teacher, T. Harv Eker, just created a video contest for us graduates. We really want to get the word out on just how important this personal growth work really is. So what I'd like you to do is simple:

Please go to my YouTube video: T. Harv Eker and Dr. Karen Karen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPJAxgIpVq8 and VOTE 5 stars AND write a few positive comments below! That's it!

The more comments and ratings I get, the more likely my video will be chosen to win...which means the better I can serve everyone including YOU.

I would like to thank you in advance for helping me out!! It really means a lot!

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
http://www.lawofattractioninlove.com

Getting Fresh With Me

2009-09-29T23:15:00.000-04:00

What did you think of that video on relationships from Marcia?

She's pretty fresh eh?

Well, she now tells me that was just a primer for the video she really wanted to share with you.

It's just been posted and it's all about how to get what you really want out of a relationship.

http://www.marciaonlove.com/vid

It's simple stuff and she communicates it so clearly and so playfully that you'll see this showing up in your life no matter what your relationship status.

Go and enjoy it now.

http://www.marciaonlove.com/vid

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan

P.S. - Marcia also does a hilarious rendition of why a guy is like a cold car in winter. You are
going to love it!

http://www.marciaonlove.com/vid

Manifesting Your Dream Love Partner

2009-09-28T18:12:00.002-04:00

Using the Law of Attraction to Play on England's Cricket Team

2009-09-28T12:41:00.001-04:00

Dear Secret Sage,

I really want to be a cricketer one day, and play in the England’s' Women’s cricket team. I tried using the Law Of Attraction, but it still not working:( I'm only 14 at the moment) So please have you got any good advice for me?

Thanks,
Nausheen
Xxx

Dear Nausheen,

What a wonderful dream you have! I congratulate you for it!
Harnessing the Law of Attraction takes a lot of persistence. You have to FEEL that you already have reached your dream in your body. It cannot be just a mind exercise.

Firstly, your intentions seem quite clear. My question is, can you be clearer? WHEN do you want to be on the team by? What date? What position? Would you like to be the best? How many years do you think you’d like to be on the team for? Are you wanting to win a championships?

Secondly, when you do your embodying or visualization exercises, you must do it daily for best effect. Even five minutes when you first wake up or when you go to bed will make a huge difference in your life. You must imagine in your body, what it feels like to be on the team, the camaraderie you’ll feel…the joy of playing at the top levels. Your whole body should be tingling with excitement when you do it correctly. You can even dress up in their uniform to practice if it makes you feel like you’re part of the team already.

Thirdly, you must act as if. If it weren’t impossible, what would you be doing right now to prepare? That means doing what they do: train hard – much harder than everyone else you know, get a great coach, eat nutritious meals, watch every game. Imagine yourself in the games. Contact someone you admire on the team, write to them and ask them what they did or what they do to perform their best. Copy them. Contact the coach. Ask him/her what advice they’d give you to be your best so you can be a future contender for the team.

Maybe you need to change schools to one that has an excellent cricket program? Are you willing to go that far?

Nausheen, anything is possible. You just have to take the next logical step and don’t give up at the first sign of an obstacle. Be inquisitive. And KEEP GOING!

I believe in you. Now it is your turn.

Blessings,
The Secret Sage