What did you think of that video on relationships from Marcia?
She's pretty fresh eh?
Well, she now tells me that was just a primer for the video she really wanted to share with you.
It's just been posted and it's all about how to get what you really want out of a relationship.
http://www.marciaonlove.com/vid
It's simple stuff and she communicates it so clearly and so playfully that you'll see this showing up in your life no matter what your relationship status.
Go and enjoy it now.
http://www.marciaonlove.com/vid
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
P.S. - Marcia also does a hilarious rendition of why a guy is like a cold car in winter. You are
going to love it!
http://www.marciaonlove.com/vid
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Monday, September 28, 2009
Using the Law of Attraction to Play on England's Cricket Team
Dear Secret Sage,
I really want to be a cricketer one day, and play in the England’s' Women’s cricket team. I tried using the Law Of Attraction, but it still not working:( I'm only 14 at the moment) So please have you got any good advice for me?
Thanks,
Nausheen
Xxx
Dear Nausheen,
What a wonderful dream you have! I congratulate you for it!
Harnessing the Law of Attraction takes a lot of persistence. You have to FEEL that you already have reached your dream in your body. It cannot be just a mind exercise.
Firstly, your intentions seem quite clear. My question is, can you be clearer? WHEN do you want to be on the team by? What date? What position? Would you like to be the best? How many years do you think you’d like to be on the team for? Are you wanting to win a championships?
Secondly, when you do your embodying or visualization exercises, you must do it daily for best effect. Even five minutes when you first wake up or when you go to bed will make a huge difference in your life. You must imagine in your body, what it feels like to be on the team, the camaraderie you’ll feel…the joy of playing at the top levels. Your whole body should be tingling with excitement when you do it correctly. You can even dress up in their uniform to practice if it makes you feel like you’re part of the team already.
Thirdly, you must act as if. If it weren’t impossible, what would you be doing right now to prepare? That means doing what they do: train hard – much harder than everyone else you know, get a great coach, eat nutritious meals, watch every game. Imagine yourself in the games. Contact someone you admire on the team, write to them and ask them what they did or what they do to perform their best. Copy them. Contact the coach. Ask him/her what advice they’d give you to be your best so you can be a future contender for the team.
Maybe you need to change schools to one that has an excellent cricket program? Are you willing to go that far?
Nausheen, anything is possible. You just have to take the next logical step and don’t give up at the first sign of an obstacle. Be inquisitive. And KEEP GOING!
I believe in you. Now it is your turn.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
I really want to be a cricketer one day, and play in the England’s' Women’s cricket team. I tried using the Law Of Attraction, but it still not working:( I'm only 14 at the moment) So please have you got any good advice for me?
Thanks,
Nausheen
Xxx
Dear Nausheen,
What a wonderful dream you have! I congratulate you for it!
Harnessing the Law of Attraction takes a lot of persistence. You have to FEEL that you already have reached your dream in your body. It cannot be just a mind exercise.
Firstly, your intentions seem quite clear. My question is, can you be clearer? WHEN do you want to be on the team by? What date? What position? Would you like to be the best? How many years do you think you’d like to be on the team for? Are you wanting to win a championships?
Secondly, when you do your embodying or visualization exercises, you must do it daily for best effect. Even five minutes when you first wake up or when you go to bed will make a huge difference in your life. You must imagine in your body, what it feels like to be on the team, the camaraderie you’ll feel…the joy of playing at the top levels. Your whole body should be tingling with excitement when you do it correctly. You can even dress up in their uniform to practice if it makes you feel like you’re part of the team already.
Thirdly, you must act as if. If it weren’t impossible, what would you be doing right now to prepare? That means doing what they do: train hard – much harder than everyone else you know, get a great coach, eat nutritious meals, watch every game. Imagine yourself in the games. Contact someone you admire on the team, write to them and ask them what they did or what they do to perform their best. Copy them. Contact the coach. Ask him/her what advice they’d give you to be your best so you can be a future contender for the team.
Maybe you need to change schools to one that has an excellent cricket program? Are you willing to go that far?
Nausheen, anything is possible. You just have to take the next logical step and don’t give up at the first sign of an obstacle. Be inquisitive. And KEEP GOING!
I believe in you. Now it is your turn.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
This is Hilarious!
I just got sent this great video on Relationships from Marcia Martin and I nearly fell off my chair watching it.
If you want to hear a really fresh perspective on the differences between Men and Women and how we relate to each other check this out.
www.marciaonlove.com/vid
Marcia is hilarious and what she shares is so on the mark that you will be laughing your head off the whole way through.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Oh, and if you don't know who Marcia Martin is, she is one of the original pioneers of the human potential movement and has been training people to live extraordinary lives for over 30 years.
Trust me, she's good.
www.marciaonlove.com/vid
Enjoy!
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
If you want to hear a really fresh perspective on the differences between Men and Women and how we relate to each other check this out.
www.marciaonlove.com/vid
Marcia is hilarious and what she shares is so on the mark that you will be laughing your head off the whole way through.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Oh, and if you don't know who Marcia Martin is, she is one of the original pioneers of the human potential movement and has been training people to live extraordinary lives for over 30 years.
Trust me, she's good.
www.marciaonlove.com/vid
Enjoy!
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
Monday, September 21, 2009
Dear Dr. Karen: How Can I Help My Alcoholic Husband?
Here's a great letter from Jan:
Dear Dr. Karen,
How do I help my husband, who is an alcoholic? I'm at my wits end. I'm tired of being married to him but I stay because I want to keep my family together.
Jan
Dear Jan,
What you face is uncomfortable and unfortunately very common. Do you ever wonder why you're in this situation?
Here's the answer:
You attracted an alcoholic husband so that you could heal a deep part of yourself that needs healing from childhood. Your husband is a mirror. He represents a part of you that you have rejected and do not love fully.
We call that The Shadow. To learn more about the shadow, I highly recommend that you view this film (preferably with your husband when he is sober and if he is agreeable), The Shadow Effect.
Everyone that we attract into our lives represents different facets of ourselves (the Law of Attraction). Our relationships can either be life-affirming or not. Some of the people we attract are representations of our Shadow. Your husband is one of those people.
I'm assuming you have children when you refer to your "family". Your number one responsibility as a parent to your child is to lovingly model what you would like their lives to be. No matter what you SAY or TELL them to do, they will, on some level, model after one parent or the other (or both).
So what are you modeling right now?
Are you happy? I can see that you are not. So as each day goes by, you are teaching your children how to be unhappy. This may sound harsh, but I want to level with you.
Unless you get some support (and I mean MAJOR support) in your life right now to make some changes, you are literally sentencing those you love, your children, to a very difficult future. They will not have a healthy model of how to be happy. They will not have a healthy model of how to have a healthy love relationship.
You are so afraid of breaking up your family that you suffer from your inaction to do anything about it. Guess what? You're family is already breaking up. You just can't see it because you are willing to live this lie in front of your children in the guise that it is good for them.
It is not.
They know. Maybe not on a conscious level, but the negativity is seeping into their pores and you are letting it happen.
Do you love them enough to change?
Do you love them enough to do whatever it takes to figure out how to be happy so that you can model authentic joy and love?
Do you love them enough to stop waiting for your husband to change and instead, get some real help so that you can live the life of joy you were meant to live.
If what I say causes tears, I understand. If you were standing here in front of me, I would give you a hug, then hold you by the shoulders and look deeply into your eyes and tell you,
"You can do it. You are not alone. I believe in you. You will find a way."
So to answer your question more directly, here's my advice:
1. Get support. Call a trusted friend and have her take you to an Al-Anon meeting every week. You won't feel like you're all alone anymore.
2. Read Melanie Beatty's book, Co-Dependent No More starting tomorrow. And when you're done, read the next book, Beyond Co-dependency. You can find these at the Law of Attraction in Love Bookstore.
3. Write down your intentions on exactly HOW you want your life to look...and make sure none of what you wish to manifest depends on your husband changing anything.
4. With the support of your Al-Anon or a counselor, take action to change your life. Your dream will not manifest without action.
From the patients I have had that have gone through what you're going through and come out the other side, I can share with you that "breaking up your family" is one of the least harmful things you can do.
I can guarantee your husband WON'T change if you don't. If you do decide to leave him, expect begging and pleading and promises to change. If you love him sober and wish to be with him that way, then consider waiting for at least six months of sobriety and AA meetings (for him) before you even entertain the notion of moving back in with him.
Sometimes, when an alcoholic knows that he is going to lose everything he value most, it is the motivation they need to change. Sometimes, it isn't enough. But if that's the case, then you know that you and the children don't rank (and why would you want to stay in that kind of relationship anyway?)
I wish you the best. Go get some help today!
When you get a chance please connect with me on FaceBook and Twitter.
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
Dear Dr. Karen,
How do I help my husband, who is an alcoholic? I'm at my wits end. I'm tired of being married to him but I stay because I want to keep my family together.
Jan
Dear Jan,
What you face is uncomfortable and unfortunately very common. Do you ever wonder why you're in this situation?
Here's the answer:
You attracted an alcoholic husband so that you could heal a deep part of yourself that needs healing from childhood. Your husband is a mirror. He represents a part of you that you have rejected and do not love fully.
We call that The Shadow. To learn more about the shadow, I highly recommend that you view this film (preferably with your husband when he is sober and if he is agreeable), The Shadow Effect.
Everyone that we attract into our lives represents different facets of ourselves (the Law of Attraction). Our relationships can either be life-affirming or not. Some of the people we attract are representations of our Shadow. Your husband is one of those people.
I'm assuming you have children when you refer to your "family". Your number one responsibility as a parent to your child is to lovingly model what you would like their lives to be. No matter what you SAY or TELL them to do, they will, on some level, model after one parent or the other (or both).
So what are you modeling right now?
Are you happy? I can see that you are not. So as each day goes by, you are teaching your children how to be unhappy. This may sound harsh, but I want to level with you.
Unless you get some support (and I mean MAJOR support) in your life right now to make some changes, you are literally sentencing those you love, your children, to a very difficult future. They will not have a healthy model of how to be happy. They will not have a healthy model of how to have a healthy love relationship.
You are so afraid of breaking up your family that you suffer from your inaction to do anything about it. Guess what? You're family is already breaking up. You just can't see it because you are willing to live this lie in front of your children in the guise that it is good for them.
It is not.
They know. Maybe not on a conscious level, but the negativity is seeping into their pores and you are letting it happen.
Do you love them enough to change?
Do you love them enough to do whatever it takes to figure out how to be happy so that you can model authentic joy and love?
Do you love them enough to stop waiting for your husband to change and instead, get some real help so that you can live the life of joy you were meant to live.
If what I say causes tears, I understand. If you were standing here in front of me, I would give you a hug, then hold you by the shoulders and look deeply into your eyes and tell you,
"You can do it. You are not alone. I believe in you. You will find a way."
So to answer your question more directly, here's my advice:
1. Get support. Call a trusted friend and have her take you to an Al-Anon meeting every week. You won't feel like you're all alone anymore.
2. Read Melanie Beatty's book, Co-Dependent No More starting tomorrow. And when you're done, read the next book, Beyond Co-dependency. You can find these at the Law of Attraction in Love Bookstore.
3. Write down your intentions on exactly HOW you want your life to look...and make sure none of what you wish to manifest depends on your husband changing anything.
4. With the support of your Al-Anon or a counselor, take action to change your life. Your dream will not manifest without action.
From the patients I have had that have gone through what you're going through and come out the other side, I can share with you that "breaking up your family" is one of the least harmful things you can do.
I can guarantee your husband WON'T change if you don't. If you do decide to leave him, expect begging and pleading and promises to change. If you love him sober and wish to be with him that way, then consider waiting for at least six months of sobriety and AA meetings (for him) before you even entertain the notion of moving back in with him.
Sometimes, when an alcoholic knows that he is going to lose everything he value most, it is the motivation they need to change. Sometimes, it isn't enough. But if that's the case, then you know that you and the children don't rank (and why would you want to stay in that kind of relationship anyway?)
I wish you the best. Go get some help today!
When you get a chance please connect with me on FaceBook and Twitter.
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Today's Teleseminar: The Language of Abundance - Change Your Language, Transform Your Life
I'm really excited for this month's teleseminar, The Language of Abundance - Change Your Language, Transform Your Life. Why? Because I know that one of the simplist things you can do to create a life of abundance is to change the words you use in daily conversation.
Each word you know is composed of a vibration. It is a vibration accorded by you when you say it or even THINK it. These vibrations can either build you up (make you stronger and vibrate stronger) or pull you down (make you weaker). The stronger your vibration, the more likely you will manifest what you want rather than what you don't want.
I'm amazed at how easily I catch myself saying old phrases that I know now will weaken my vibration. When I catch myself, I change the word immediately. There is no stress involved when I change the word but just an awareness of my choice.
So I really want you to join me on this month's FREE teleseminar where I will be describing the language that we need to change to manifest more abundance. The cool thing is that you get to practice. So bring along a pen and journal for the teleseminar!
Words have power.
Being conscious of the words we use is a great tool to manifest our dreams.
Here are the details:
September 17, TODAY 7:30 PM EST
www.timezoneconverter.com
Conference Call Number: 712-432-3900
Access Code 7677512#
Talk to you then!
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
Each word you know is composed of a vibration. It is a vibration accorded by you when you say it or even THINK it. These vibrations can either build you up (make you stronger and vibrate stronger) or pull you down (make you weaker). The stronger your vibration, the more likely you will manifest what you want rather than what you don't want.
I'm amazed at how easily I catch myself saying old phrases that I know now will weaken my vibration. When I catch myself, I change the word immediately. There is no stress involved when I change the word but just an awareness of my choice.
So I really want you to join me on this month's FREE teleseminar where I will be describing the language that we need to change to manifest more abundance. The cool thing is that you get to practice. So bring along a pen and journal for the teleseminar!
Words have power.
Being conscious of the words we use is a great tool to manifest our dreams.
Here are the details:
September 17, TODAY 7:30 PM EST
www.timezoneconverter.com
Conference Call Number: 712-432-3900
Access Code 7677512#
Talk to you then!
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Attraction: How Women Can Find Their Glow
Were you listening in on the Law of Attraction in Love Radio show? If not you can listen to it free here: www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. I interviewed Sandra Yancey of eWomenNetwork about the new movie, The Glow Project.
If you're a woman struggling to find her way, her purpose, her "light" then this movie will inspire you. Every woman featured in this movie has been through trauma and strife and have come out on top as successful, happy people. The "glow" they have comes from how they worked through their struggles and found their true SELF.
Even if you've already been described as "glowing" by others around you, you can help other women by letting them know about the Glow Project. Girls, teens, men, boys...all can benefit from watching this movie.
There is a five minute trailer right on the website. Watch it. Let me know what you think by commenting on my blog post.
For me, it took becoming disabled from fibromyalgia, dissolving a marriage before I finally found my glow. It was hard at the time, but I wouldn't trade my experiences for anything! Being attractive and having that "glow" is about learning to discover and develop your inner essence as a woman and sharing it with the rest of the world.
You can help heal the world with your GLOW.
By the way, men LOVE the movie, so share it with all the men in your life who love you.
Let me know what you think!
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
www.lawofattractioninlove.com/glowproject
If you're a woman struggling to find her way, her purpose, her "light" then this movie will inspire you. Every woman featured in this movie has been through trauma and strife and have come out on top as successful, happy people. The "glow" they have comes from how they worked through their struggles and found their true SELF.
Even if you've already been described as "glowing" by others around you, you can help other women by letting them know about the Glow Project. Girls, teens, men, boys...all can benefit from watching this movie.
There is a five minute trailer right on the website. Watch it. Let me know what you think by commenting on my blog post.
For me, it took becoming disabled from fibromyalgia, dissolving a marriage before I finally found my glow. It was hard at the time, but I wouldn't trade my experiences for anything! Being attractive and having that "glow" is about learning to discover and develop your inner essence as a woman and sharing it with the rest of the world.
You can help heal the world with your GLOW.
By the way, men LOVE the movie, so share it with all the men in your life who love you.
Let me know what you think!
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
www.lawofattractioninlove.com/glowproject
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Radio Show Monday: The Glow Project
How is it that some women are wildly successful, while others, with the same relative education, experience, passion and goals for success, struggle? We all have the same amount of hours in a day, yet some are able to accomplish so much more. What is it that they do so differently? What is it that they possess that is unique? What is it that makes them GLOW?
There is a powerful essence inside of every woman—a critical ingredient that only women possess. When realized, nurtured and expanded, it becomes the key to true happiness and success. You deserve happiness, fulfillment, and the opportunity to achieve wild success. STOP what you are doing. Take a breath, and connect with your GLOW.
The GLOW Project has brought together prominent corporate achievers and dynamic entrepreneurs, to share with you how they manifest, unleash and expand GLOW. Witness their struggles and pain and their strategies for success. By focusing on GLOW, they are fulfilling their destinies and achieving more success than they ever imagined. These women exude the kind of grace, confidence and strength that every woman can achieve, while also being mothers, daughters, wives and leaders. The GLOW Project will ignite your spirit and inspire your dreams.
The GLOW Project will show you that, no matter how hard you work, no matter how hard you try, you can never achieve your full potential and happiness without GLOW. GLOW is your birth right as women. Your essence, your passion and your dreams can no longer be denied. You are brilliant, magnificent, and unequalled! Embrace your essence and forever live in GLOW. See and experience the GLOW Project movie. Watch the trailer below and join me for an interview with Sandra Yancey who is a big part of this movie on Blog Talk Radio Monday 14th at 12 noon EDT.
Sandra Yancey is an award winning entrepreneur, international business owner, ABC radio show host, author and philanthropist who is dedicated to helping women achieve and succeed. CNN's Anderson Cooper 360 Show featured Sandra as an American Hero for her role in mobilizing much needed resources for the girl's high school basketball team of Pass Christian, Mississippi in the wake of the Hurricane Katrina devastation. As the visionary leader of eWomenNetwork, she travels annually to cities across North America to connect with women entrepreneurs face-to-face to help them accelerate the growth of their businesses.
Here are the details:
September 14, Monday, 12 NN EDT or 9 AM PDT
www.timezoneconverter.com
www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren
Call in number: 347-945-6313
Hit “1" if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question
The show will be broadcast live at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.
Here's the trailer for the movie!
http://www.glowproject.org/Video_TheatreTrailer.php
Every woman needs to watch this movie!
No matter what traumas or set-backs you've experienced in your life, you CAN succeed in love, life and joy. The women in this film will inspire you. Join Sandra and I on the show. Call in live to ask a questions or to share your story.
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
There is a powerful essence inside of every woman—a critical ingredient that only women possess. When realized, nurtured and expanded, it becomes the key to true happiness and success. You deserve happiness, fulfillment, and the opportunity to achieve wild success. STOP what you are doing. Take a breath, and connect with your GLOW.
The GLOW Project has brought together prominent corporate achievers and dynamic entrepreneurs, to share with you how they manifest, unleash and expand GLOW. Witness their struggles and pain and their strategies for success. By focusing on GLOW, they are fulfilling their destinies and achieving more success than they ever imagined. These women exude the kind of grace, confidence and strength that every woman can achieve, while also being mothers, daughters, wives and leaders. The GLOW Project will ignite your spirit and inspire your dreams.
The GLOW Project will show you that, no matter how hard you work, no matter how hard you try, you can never achieve your full potential and happiness without GLOW. GLOW is your birth right as women. Your essence, your passion and your dreams can no longer be denied. You are brilliant, magnificent, and unequalled! Embrace your essence and forever live in GLOW. See and experience the GLOW Project movie. Watch the trailer below and join me for an interview with Sandra Yancey who is a big part of this movie on Blog Talk Radio Monday 14th at 12 noon EDT.
Sandra Yancey is an award winning entrepreneur, international business owner, ABC radio show host, author and philanthropist who is dedicated to helping women achieve and succeed. CNN's Anderson Cooper 360 Show featured Sandra as an American Hero for her role in mobilizing much needed resources for the girl's high school basketball team of Pass Christian, Mississippi in the wake of the Hurricane Katrina devastation. As the visionary leader of eWomenNetwork, she travels annually to cities across North America to connect with women entrepreneurs face-to-face to help them accelerate the growth of their businesses.
Here are the details:
September 14, Monday, 12 NN EDT or 9 AM PDT
www.timezoneconverter.com
www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren
Call in number: 347-945-6313
Hit “1" if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question
The show will be broadcast live at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.
Here's the trailer for the movie!
http://www.glowproject.org/Video_TheatreTrailer.php
Every woman needs to watch this movie!
No matter what traumas or set-backs you've experienced in your life, you CAN succeed in love, life and joy. The women in this film will inspire you. Join Sandra and I on the show. Call in live to ask a questions or to share your story.
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Dear. Dr Karen: Unconditional Love
The Dear Dr. Karen question for today:
Dear Dr. Karen,
How can I use the Law of Attraction to improve the relationship that I already have. I KNOW that we were meant to be together due to numerous reasons and synchronicities that I continue to see everyday, but I feel that my fiancee is afraid of this due to her past traumas and being unloved in childhood. She runs away, but at the same time she cannot let go. I have also tried to walk away but cannot. The result is we are at a constant stalemate. Can the Law of Attraction help to bring this relationship to bring about the changes needed to break down the resistance and overcome the things keeping us apart?
Ken
Dear Ken,
Intend the type of relationship you wish to have with your fiancee. Your greatest gift to her is loving her exactly the way she is, with all the fears and insecurities she may have. She has attracted you into her life to be a mirror. You can treat her differently from all the other people who has let her down in the past. The relationship is a form of healing for both of you if you can see it that way.
Instead of wanting her to change because you think she (and you) would feel better, see if you can be inquisitive about what makes her tick. The Law of Attraction works in this way - the more unconditional the love you can have towards your fiancee, the more that kind of love will return to you. Don't try to change her. You're not her therapist and you shouldn't put yourself in that role.
What would help even more is that YOU get counseling or coaching. You would set an example for her. If she sees how much happier you are when you are working on your own "stuff", then maybe, just maybe, she'll be inspired to delve into her own "stuff" and clear it once and for all.
Too often we are trying too hard to tell others how they can change to be happier instead of focusing on our OWN stuff. So Ken, how CAN you be happier with your fiancee without needing her to change? There is no such thing as a real stalemate. You are either growing or dying. Which is it?
Take the initiative to grow yourself. Don't wait for her to change or even give her the sense that you wish her to change. It will be counterproductive. Instead, give her what she has never received, unconditional love AND acceptance. And may she be inspired by your example.
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
Dear Dr. Karen,
How can I use the Law of Attraction to improve the relationship that I already have. I KNOW that we were meant to be together due to numerous reasons and synchronicities that I continue to see everyday, but I feel that my fiancee is afraid of this due to her past traumas and being unloved in childhood. She runs away, but at the same time she cannot let go. I have also tried to walk away but cannot. The result is we are at a constant stalemate. Can the Law of Attraction help to bring this relationship to bring about the changes needed to break down the resistance and overcome the things keeping us apart?
Ken
Dear Ken,
Intend the type of relationship you wish to have with your fiancee. Your greatest gift to her is loving her exactly the way she is, with all the fears and insecurities she may have. She has attracted you into her life to be a mirror. You can treat her differently from all the other people who has let her down in the past. The relationship is a form of healing for both of you if you can see it that way.
Instead of wanting her to change because you think she (and you) would feel better, see if you can be inquisitive about what makes her tick. The Law of Attraction works in this way - the more unconditional the love you can have towards your fiancee, the more that kind of love will return to you. Don't try to change her. You're not her therapist and you shouldn't put yourself in that role.
What would help even more is that YOU get counseling or coaching. You would set an example for her. If she sees how much happier you are when you are working on your own "stuff", then maybe, just maybe, she'll be inspired to delve into her own "stuff" and clear it once and for all.
Too often we are trying too hard to tell others how they can change to be happier instead of focusing on our OWN stuff. So Ken, how CAN you be happier with your fiancee without needing her to change? There is no such thing as a real stalemate. You are either growing or dying. Which is it?
Take the initiative to grow yourself. Don't wait for her to change or even give her the sense that you wish her to change. It will be counterproductive. Instead, give her what she has never received, unconditional love AND acceptance. And may she be inspired by your example.
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
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