Monday, April 20, 2009
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Help! I'm attracted to another man!
Dear Secret Sage,
I am married going on 9 years and all of a sudden I find myself attracted to another man. I have envisioned this new man and I together in scenerios that are so real that I feel as though it is almost prophetic. I am very confused and want the universe to guide me. What do I need to do?
Amber
Dear Amber,
You need to get clear on what you really want, plain and simple. I've been in a similar situation. I eventually separated from my husband because I didn't feel connected to him the way I felt with this other man - I'll call him "Bill". Anyhow, Bill and I got together after we were both singles and an amazing thing happened.
We realized that although we loved each other, we weren't meant for each other long term. Would I change a thing? No. Bill was the "catalyst" for me to separate from a less than fulfilling marriage. My husband was a great guy - there's nothing wrong with him. But I just wanted something more...
And so do you.
The one thing I do regret, is not being honest with my ex-husband about being attracted to another man. It would have opened up our relationship to authentic connection much earlier and I wouldn't have "wasted" his time.
So think about that. You might be doing your partner a disservice by being dishonest (yes withholding information is dishonesty in this case). He deserves better.
I encourage you to get some counseling or coaching to help you sort out what you really want. Focusing on what you really want (the outcome) will help you manifest your dreams. You need to be clear on your situation with your current partner. Truth and authenticity ALWAYS is better in the long run even if feelings are hurt initially.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
I am married going on 9 years and all of a sudden I find myself attracted to another man. I have envisioned this new man and I together in scenerios that are so real that I feel as though it is almost prophetic. I am very confused and want the universe to guide me. What do I need to do?
Amber
Dear Amber,
You need to get clear on what you really want, plain and simple. I've been in a similar situation. I eventually separated from my husband because I didn't feel connected to him the way I felt with this other man - I'll call him "Bill". Anyhow, Bill and I got together after we were both singles and an amazing thing happened.
We realized that although we loved each other, we weren't meant for each other long term. Would I change a thing? No. Bill was the "catalyst" for me to separate from a less than fulfilling marriage. My husband was a great guy - there's nothing wrong with him. But I just wanted something more...
And so do you.
The one thing I do regret, is not being honest with my ex-husband about being attracted to another man. It would have opened up our relationship to authentic connection much earlier and I wouldn't have "wasted" his time.
So think about that. You might be doing your partner a disservice by being dishonest (yes withholding information is dishonesty in this case). He deserves better.
I encourage you to get some counseling or coaching to help you sort out what you really want. Focusing on what you really want (the outcome) will help you manifest your dreams. You need to be clear on your situation with your current partner. Truth and authenticity ALWAYS is better in the long run even if feelings are hurt initially.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Is it OK to have my "ex" on my law of attraction vision board?
Hi secret sage,
I made this vision board wherein I placed everything that I wanted. I'm focusing more on the picture of me and my former boyfriend, getting back together and having a nice family. I'm feeling everything including him, as already mine and I'm grateful. The thing is I get to have dreams about him and the family that I am visualizing, is that okay?
Marj
Dear Marj,
There is nothing wrong with dreaming about your former boyfriend and getting back together and having a nice family. The only thing is that the law of attraction states that like vibrations attract each other which means that so long as he is the same "frequency" as you, you will likely be back together again. It could be soon. It could be 10 years from now (are you willing to wait that long?) or it could be never.
You can't use the law of attraction to manipulate another person to fall back in love with you. They have free will just like you do. You can, however, ask the Universe to bring you someone just like your ex (or your ex if he wishes to be with you) who WANTS to be in relationship with you. Then you have the best of both worlds. You get your ex OR someone BETTER!
Vision boards work very well as long as you are not attached to the outcome. So if you are willing for the Universe to bring you someone better than your boyfriend, they you're set! You will be successful. If, however, you feel you MUST have him and only him, then things may be difficult to manifest for you.
I think being in love with your boyfriend is a good thing only in that you can use the vibration of LOVE in your visualizing to manifest someone even better. Keep the feelings going, just don't attach yourself to your ex.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
You're never TOO OLD: age is in the mind and attitude!
Check out this video of an amazing 88 year-young mayor of a major Canadian City. She has been elected 11 times in a row and has been the mayor for 30 years! She used to play professional hockey and still dons on her skates regularly to shoot the puck around. Enjoy this video!
Sunday, April 12, 2009
How can I use the Law of Attraction to become Rich?
Dear Secret Sage,
How can I get rich, when I know my current job isn't of my interest and there is no growth nor can I make a career. How can I get rich like others? How do I make Big Bucks? How do I get the confidence?
Please help,
Thanks
Anto
Dear Anto,
Very simply, you study and learn what rich and successful people know and do. You will need coaching or a mentor, someone who has already "been" where you want to go. A job will never make you rich, but is helpful in the meantime while you are learning new things.
All extremely wealthy people have other sources of income besides their job - they have a business or have investments that give them a source of passive income (income that they don't work for). You will need to learn how to be a business entrepreneur and most of all, how to best SERVE OTHERS. Those that serve others the most get rewarded the most.
And you must be willing to take action and stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone (with support of course).
Here's a start:
1. Go to www.secretstomoney.info and listen to the free teleseminar on the secret psychology of wealth. Afterwards register to attend the three-day Millionaire Mind Intensive.
2. Read Loral Langemeier's book, The Millionaire Maker, which you can get for free by calling them. Go to www.liveoutloud.com. Get on the free weekly teleseminars and start studying. Sign up with their wealth acceleration coaching program where you'll be working with multi-millionaires on a one-on-one basis.
So by the end of this month, review. What have you done? What have you read? How many teleseminars have you listened to? Have you signed up to the Millionaire Mind Intensive which is a steal at $97 (three days of teaching!!)
If you haven't done anything, then you are telling the Universe that you REALLY aren't ready for receiving more money.
When you take ACTION towards your dreams, the law of attraction will pull people, places and things in to help you. I'm one of those things. Let me know how you feel about what you learned through those resources. And there are many many others. Check out the books by The Secret teachers, especially The Answer by John Assaraf.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
How can I get rich, when I know my current job isn't of my interest and there is no growth nor can I make a career. How can I get rich like others? How do I make Big Bucks? How do I get the confidence?
Please help,
Thanks
Anto
Dear Anto,
Very simply, you study and learn what rich and successful people know and do. You will need coaching or a mentor, someone who has already "been" where you want to go. A job will never make you rich, but is helpful in the meantime while you are learning new things.
All extremely wealthy people have other sources of income besides their job - they have a business or have investments that give them a source of passive income (income that they don't work for). You will need to learn how to be a business entrepreneur and most of all, how to best SERVE OTHERS. Those that serve others the most get rewarded the most.
And you must be willing to take action and stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone (with support of course).
Here's a start:
1. Go to www.secretstomoney.info and listen to the free teleseminar on the secret psychology of wealth. Afterwards register to attend the three-day Millionaire Mind Intensive.
2. Read Loral Langemeier's book, The Millionaire Maker, which you can get for free by calling them. Go to www.liveoutloud.com. Get on the free weekly teleseminars and start studying. Sign up with their wealth acceleration coaching program where you'll be working with multi-millionaires on a one-on-one basis.
So by the end of this month, review. What have you done? What have you read? How many teleseminars have you listened to? Have you signed up to the Millionaire Mind Intensive which is a steal at $97 (three days of teaching!!)
If you haven't done anything, then you are telling the Universe that you REALLY aren't ready for receiving more money.
When you take ACTION towards your dreams, the law of attraction will pull people, places and things in to help you. I'm one of those things. Let me know how you feel about what you learned through those resources. And there are many many others. Check out the books by The Secret teachers, especially The Answer by John Assaraf.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
How do I use the law of attraction to become taller?
Dear Secret Sage,
I am a girl of 26 year, with a short height(5ft) and want to gain at least 5 inches more. I know nothing is impossible but still, can I become tall?
I have never been attracted to any man till now but the last week and for the first time in my life I attended a workshop and the coach was a person having all the qualities that I wished to have in my life partner. Can I ever attract this person as i have started loving him a lot.
I need your help dear, please tell whether law of attraction can bring these two things in my life? Please help.
Thanks
Krishna
Dear Krishna,
The Universe needs to know your BIG WHY. What I mean is, you need to have a big reason why you want the things you do sometimes in order to harness the law of attraction. Why do you want to be 5 inches taller? What does this have to do with attracting a partner? Where did you learn that this is an obstacle to love?
If you think you need to grow taller in order to attract your dream partner, then you are not intentionally using the Law of Attraction to it's greatest power. Let me as you this: Do you want to be taller so you feel more attractive to yourself? or do you want to be taller because you think you'll be able to attract someone else better that way?
My sense is that what you TRULY want is not the height, but a loving compatible partner who loves you completely and totally for who you are, regardless of your height. Would you agree?
So if you had the choice: more height or the perfect loving partner, which is more important? Probably the latter, I hope.
As for your workshop facilitator, I can understand your attraction to him. It happens all the time that students fall for the instructor. They are larger than life when they are teaching. I know I am. We are at our best. The fact that he is the first person you've ever been attracted to shows you the kind of energy you are attracted to. That's helpful.
Now, in order to attract someone LIKE this person (you cannot force that person to love you), YOU need to grow to be AS BIG energetically as they are. For example, if they radiate confidence and sex appeal, you must too in order to attract the same. If they are compassionate and self-loving, you must be the same to attract him. Make sense? Your partner can't be what you are missing. You will always attract a similar vibration with the law of attraction. That's why famous people often attract other famous people. They have the same vibrational mindset.
When you can be as attractive and confident as that teacher in the workshop, then you will attract that same energy to yourself and it will be simple. The process of growing yourself bigger isn't hard, but it takes conscious effort and guidance. If it sounds depressing or overwhelming to you, I suggest you get some relationship coaching, either with myself or someone else qualified.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
I am a girl of 26 year, with a short height(5ft) and want to gain at least 5 inches more. I know nothing is impossible but still, can I become tall?
I have never been attracted to any man till now but the last week and for the first time in my life I attended a workshop and the coach was a person having all the qualities that I wished to have in my life partner. Can I ever attract this person as i have started loving him a lot.
I need your help dear, please tell whether law of attraction can bring these two things in my life? Please help.
Thanks
Krishna
Dear Krishna,
The Universe needs to know your BIG WHY. What I mean is, you need to have a big reason why you want the things you do sometimes in order to harness the law of attraction. Why do you want to be 5 inches taller? What does this have to do with attracting a partner? Where did you learn that this is an obstacle to love?
If you think you need to grow taller in order to attract your dream partner, then you are not intentionally using the Law of Attraction to it's greatest power. Let me as you this: Do you want to be taller so you feel more attractive to yourself? or do you want to be taller because you think you'll be able to attract someone else better that way?
My sense is that what you TRULY want is not the height, but a loving compatible partner who loves you completely and totally for who you are, regardless of your height. Would you agree?
So if you had the choice: more height or the perfect loving partner, which is more important? Probably the latter, I hope.
As for your workshop facilitator, I can understand your attraction to him. It happens all the time that students fall for the instructor. They are larger than life when they are teaching. I know I am. We are at our best. The fact that he is the first person you've ever been attracted to shows you the kind of energy you are attracted to. That's helpful.
Now, in order to attract someone LIKE this person (you cannot force that person to love you), YOU need to grow to be AS BIG energetically as they are. For example, if they radiate confidence and sex appeal, you must too in order to attract the same. If they are compassionate and self-loving, you must be the same to attract him. Make sense? Your partner can't be what you are missing. You will always attract a similar vibration with the law of attraction. That's why famous people often attract other famous people. They have the same vibrational mindset.
When you can be as attractive and confident as that teacher in the workshop, then you will attract that same energy to yourself and it will be simple. The process of growing yourself bigger isn't hard, but it takes conscious effort and guidance. If it sounds depressing or overwhelming to you, I suggest you get some relationship coaching, either with myself or someone else qualified.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Sunday, April 5, 2009
How do I use the law of attraction to manifest my dream career?
Dear Secret Sage,
I am currently seeking a career. The only problem is, I'm not sure of what I want to do. I do have the desires for what I'm looking for in a career. What do I need to do to manifest the career of my dreams? What process do I need to take?
Shelley
Dear Shelley,
You have what it takes to manifest your dream career! The first step is getting clear on what you want. I see that as your first "hurdle" so to speak. The rest is almost easy.
One of the reasons you may not know what you want to do is that you are focusing on career titles and not what you love to do. In other words, there is a huge difference between asking yourself if you want to be a nurse and asking your self what you love to do.
So to begin, write down (and you MUST write it down!) all the things you love to do, including anything recreational. What are your hobbies? What do you love to do that you can do all day and the time just flies? What do you do that would seem like "work" to other people, but you love it so much that you could do it for hours and feel like you just had "fun"?
For example, my brother loves anime movies (from Japan) and he loves searching the web so he's good with computers. He knows all about the best ways to watch movies at home and has a huge DVD collection. He is also a pretty good movie critic.
So what do you like to do?
Second thing you need to write down: What are you naturally talented at? What comes easily to you? Do you like numbers? Art? communicating with people? counseling? working with animals? computers?
If you get stuck on both these exercises, then you might need to start from the opposite side of the coin, which is to first write down what you DON'T like, in order to be clear on what you DO like to do.
The clearer you can be on what you resonate with, the easier it will be the harness the law of attraction to manifest your dream career.
Example: Instead of saying to the Universe, "I want to be a web designer", you will write: "I am in a dynamic business where I can use my computer and web skills to help people who need help in this area. I earn a six figure income and work about 25 hours a week. I also use my natural intuitive abilities to help my clients develop the best strategy to skyrocket their businesses and I get paid handsomely as a consultant."
See how the first statement "boxes" you into a job, whereas the second description opens it up so that the law of attraction can bring you a career that you can CREATE from scratch based on your own unique personality and strengths.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
P.S. Also pick up the book, Who Do You Think You Are? By Keith Leon
I am currently seeking a career. The only problem is, I'm not sure of what I want to do. I do have the desires for what I'm looking for in a career. What do I need to do to manifest the career of my dreams? What process do I need to take?
Shelley
Dear Shelley,
You have what it takes to manifest your dream career! The first step is getting clear on what you want. I see that as your first "hurdle" so to speak. The rest is almost easy.
One of the reasons you may not know what you want to do is that you are focusing on career titles and not what you love to do. In other words, there is a huge difference between asking yourself if you want to be a nurse and asking your self what you love to do.
So to begin, write down (and you MUST write it down!) all the things you love to do, including anything recreational. What are your hobbies? What do you love to do that you can do all day and the time just flies? What do you do that would seem like "work" to other people, but you love it so much that you could do it for hours and feel like you just had "fun"?
For example, my brother loves anime movies (from Japan) and he loves searching the web so he's good with computers. He knows all about the best ways to watch movies at home and has a huge DVD collection. He is also a pretty good movie critic.
So what do you like to do?
Second thing you need to write down: What are you naturally talented at? What comes easily to you? Do you like numbers? Art? communicating with people? counseling? working with animals? computers?
If you get stuck on both these exercises, then you might need to start from the opposite side of the coin, which is to first write down what you DON'T like, in order to be clear on what you DO like to do.
The clearer you can be on what you resonate with, the easier it will be the harness the law of attraction to manifest your dream career.
Example: Instead of saying to the Universe, "I want to be a web designer", you will write: "I am in a dynamic business where I can use my computer and web skills to help people who need help in this area. I earn a six figure income and work about 25 hours a week. I also use my natural intuitive abilities to help my clients develop the best strategy to skyrocket their businesses and I get paid handsomely as a consultant."
See how the first statement "boxes" you into a job, whereas the second description opens it up so that the law of attraction can bring you a career that you can CREATE from scratch based on your own unique personality and strengths.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
P.S. Also pick up the book, Who Do You Think You Are? By Keith Leon
How do I use the law of attraction in dating if I don't want to date just one person at a time?
Dear Secret Sage:
A man on "The Secret" dvd talked to one of the narrators about dating women and how he was having trouble with it... So I ask how can you create the kind of dating life you want if you don't want a single partner right now?
Harold
Dear Harold:
It is perfectly OK to want to date several people at once. It all depends on your intentions. So you need to be very clear on your intentions. Are you wanting to stay "single" for now and enjoy the dating life, getting to know a lot of wonderful people? Or are you wishing to get a lot of relationship experience to find out what it is you really want in your love life? Or are you wanting varied sexual expeiences without a long-term monogamous commitment?
Whatever your intentions are, you need to own up to YOUR truth. There is no absolutely right or wrong, despite what societal "norms" may be.
For your dating life to work out well, what you want is to be upfront and honest with your potential dates about your intentions. In other words, just because you find someone attractive, you wouldn't date him/her if they've made it clear that they are looking for a monogamous relationship.
If you can be "clear" then the law of attraction will help you attract exactly those people who resonate with what you want to. The trick is being honest and clear and recognizing if you have emotional blocks to accepting what you truly want (rather what you think you should want).
For additional dating advice (if you are dating women) would be www.doubleyourdating.com
Also, please check out my Law of Attraction in Love website with valuable information on relationships and manifesting your ideal love partner(s).
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
A man on "The Secret" dvd talked to one of the narrators about dating women and how he was having trouble with it... So I ask how can you create the kind of dating life you want if you don't want a single partner right now?
Harold
Dear Harold:
It is perfectly OK to want to date several people at once. It all depends on your intentions. So you need to be very clear on your intentions. Are you wanting to stay "single" for now and enjoy the dating life, getting to know a lot of wonderful people? Or are you wishing to get a lot of relationship experience to find out what it is you really want in your love life? Or are you wanting varied sexual expeiences without a long-term monogamous commitment?
Whatever your intentions are, you need to own up to YOUR truth. There is no absolutely right or wrong, despite what societal "norms" may be.
For your dating life to work out well, what you want is to be upfront and honest with your potential dates about your intentions. In other words, just because you find someone attractive, you wouldn't date him/her if they've made it clear that they are looking for a monogamous relationship.
If you can be "clear" then the law of attraction will help you attract exactly those people who resonate with what you want to. The trick is being honest and clear and recognizing if you have emotional blocks to accepting what you truly want (rather what you think you should want).
For additional dating advice (if you are dating women) would be www.doubleyourdating.com
Also, please check out my Law of Attraction in Love website with valuable information on relationships and manifesting your ideal love partner(s).
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
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