Help! I'm attracted to another man!

Dear Secret Sage,

I am married going on 9 years and all of a sudden I find myself attracted to another man. I have envisioned this new man and I together in scenerios that are so real that I feel as though it is almost prophetic. I am very confused and want the universe to guide me. What do I need to do?

Amber

Dear Amber,

You need to get clear on what you really want, plain and simple. I've been in a similar situation. I eventually separated from my husband because I didn't feel connected to him the way I felt with this other man - I'll call him "Bill". Anyhow, Bill and I got together after we were both singles and an amazing thing happened.

We realized that although we loved each other, we weren't meant for each other long term. Would I change a thing? No. Bill was the "catalyst" for me to separate from a less than fulfilling marriage. My husband was a great guy - there's nothing wrong with him. But I just wanted something more...

And so do you.

The one thing I do regret, is not being honest with my ex-husband about being attracted to another man. It would have opened up our relationship to authentic connection much earlier and I wouldn't have "wasted" his time.

So think about that. You might be doing your partner a disservice by being dishonest (yes withholding information is dishonesty in this case). He deserves better.

I encourage you to get some counseling or coaching to help you sort out what you really want. Focusing on what you really want (the outcome) will help you manifest your dreams. You need to be clear on your situation with your current partner. Truth and authenticity ALWAYS is better in the long run even if feelings are hurt initially.

Blessings,
The Secret Sage