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Dear Secret Sage,
Why am I still looking for a job I love?
Patricia
Dear Patricia,
That's a very good question! Why are you looking? Instead, think of CREATING your dream job from scratch.
Your dream job can be created out of the ethers of the unseen and manifested into the material world, but it takes two very important first steps!
Firstly, you need to be CLEAR and SPECIFIC about what you want to create. What would be your dream job? How much would you be earning? How many hours a week? In what location? With what kind of people? With what end goal in mind? Who do you plan to serve?
Then you need to practice pretending, if you will, that you have already received your dream job, and thus be in the vibration of that which you wish to receive. By "embodying" your dream come true already, you will begin to vibrate at the same frequency as your "wish". If you sustain these vibrations and make them bigger and bigger through practice and letting go of negativity, you will be able to manifest your dream job.
Do these first two steps and see what happens.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Dear Secret Sage,
I was doing great with the law of attraction. I have fallen off and things are in a weird place. I made space for love - now it is there waiting. Is there anyway to rejuvenate, or could this just be a lull? I remain positive, but also recognize and accept the disappointment. Thanks,
Emma
Dear Emma,
There is one crucial step in manifesting anyting - and no one likes this step - it is creating SPACE. The waiting is on purpose and it isn't because you aren't using the law of attraction well.
If other things in your life are manifesting well, then it means your vibration is along the lines of where you want it. Sometimes, you need SPACE before the right person comes along to fill it. Let The Universe fill it.
The other thing you can do is put a deadline on when you want your wish by. "I am happily in a romantic relationship with my dream partner by June 1, 2008" and then watch what "obstacles" come your way...which means that the Universe is testing you to see if you are ready.
Keep challenging yourself to grow - it is the best way to keep ahead of the Universe's plan to grow you. I highly suggest reading Conscious Loving by Gay Hendricks. See what magic happens after you take this next step.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Dear Secret Sage,
My dream is to be a TV hostess. I moved to Ireland to study Journalism so I could go on and hopefully get a job as a host. The school is not fun and Dublin is not my place to be. There is a course in media in the
The only problem is dear secret sage is that the only reason I'm staying here is because of my parents, I don't want to let them down. I don't want to do things that are not what I really want, so that in the future I would blame it on someone else and not myself. I am very confident, and I really think that I will succeed. I trust that everything that I want can happen.
I need help, dear secret Sage, REAL HELP. What do you think I should do? How can the law of attraction help me? Please... this is very important to me. I Love You. I am your biggest fan
Hala
Dear Hala,
I understand completely what you are going through. Parents are not always easy to please and I understand you not wanting to disappoint them. You are completely correct when you said that if you choose what you REALLY want, then you will have no one to blame except yourself if you are not happy. Taking full responsibility for your choices is one of the most important things you can do to help the Universe bring you what you want.
Your confidence in succeeding and your trust in the Universe are wonderful. Keep that strong! One of the true markers of success is someone who is willing to boldly pursue their dreams AND someone who is willing to make mistakes and correct them along the way. You should have no expectation of yourself for choosing
There are no real stumbling blocks if you perceive everything as a growth opportunity leading you closer to your dream. In the end, your parents only want for you true happiness. Even if they disagree with your decision, it is your courage to face this possibility that will determine your ultimate success. Are you willing to risk disappointing your parents (at least temporarily) in order to fulfill your dreams? If you say yes, then you know what action you must take.
Be compassionate with your parents and understand that they only want what is best for you. Tell them that you don’t want them to think that you’ve given up. Everyday imagine yourself as a TV Hostess and how happy you are. Trust in yourself and your intuition…there will be plenty of opportunities for you to grow and become the person you need to become to get that dream!
Think of this as a test from the Universe! Pass this test, and you are closer to your dream!
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Dear Secret Sage,
If I am using the Law of Attraction to try to win the lottery, and I'm asking for what I want, believing I'll get it and acting as if I'm rich, why isn't it working?
John
Dear John,
That is a great question. Many people who do not believe in the law of attraction or 'The Secret' cite your example as proof that the law of attraction does not work. There are many finer points in using the law of attraction that many people are not aware of and this is the perfect example to explore a few of these.
First of all, you already know that you must ask for what you want. In your case, you wish to win a lot of money. Understandable. Now, here is the "catch". If there is anything in your belief system that would contradict your wish to win a lot of money, then you will not be able to manifest it. For example, it is extremely common to want more money. Yet at the same time, you may also have a wish that people like you, you'd be afraid of losing the friends if you became rich, you are scared of the responsibility of handling all that money, and you were taught as a child that rich people are greedy.
Now, what happens is, your need to be liked or not to be perceived as greedy, supercedes your wish for money. Why? Because there is more emotional charge around them. Greediness may be akin to "being a bad person" in your own eyes, and your unconscious would NEVER allow you to become a "bad" person. Thus if you happen to have this programming, you will literally push money away from you for fear of being a bad person!
Secondly, do you truly believe that you'll receive it? Are you still worrying about your bills? On some level, do you really feel you deserve it? People who are really good at feeling deserving win things all the time I've noticed! It is truly amazing. Even though you may anxiously await the lottery results on T.V. every night, deep in your unconscious, you know the odds are not in your favor, so your belief is not as strong as your unconscious disbelief.
Thirdly, have you proven to the Universe that you can actually handle that amount of money? Most people who win the lottery lose it all within a year or two because they have not developed new skills on how to keep and grow their money. All they know is how to spend it. The Universe is kind. Why would you be set up to fail?
Lastly, The Universe will support you with more money, but there may be personal growth work that you must do beforehand. Ask yourself: Is winning the lottery right now in my best interest? Will I grow as a person? Have I developed the heart and skills to handle that money? Why do I want that money? Are the reasons in alignment with my highest truth?
These are just a few points for you to think about in your journey of manifesting your heart's desires. We could have an hour teleseminar just on this question!
In closing, my advice is to learn to become more conscious, and using the Law of Attraction will be much easier! Thanks for your question, John.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Dear Secret Sage,
I'm having a lot of problems with my father. He constantly criticizes everything I do and I'm miserable. How can I use the law of attraction to turn this around?
Thanks, Cheryl
Dear Cheryl,
Family relationships are challenging indeed! Did you know that all the other "non-family" relationships we have are attracted to us in order for us to "heal" our primary family relationships! That includes our love interest!
That being said, healing your primary relationship with your father will go a long way to creating peace in all of your other relationships. How can you do this?
As you probably already know, what you focus on grows. You've been focusing on all the criticism your dad has been giving you, and of course, it has not ceased. Do you realize that at the same time that you are distressed over your dad's criticism, youare alsocriticizing him for criticizing you?
One of the first things you can do to create peace in this relationship is to understand that parents do criticize their children and that is a common reality. You can either resist it and continuing to wish that it stop, or just understand and accept that it happens.
Secondly, how can you stop criticizing your dad? Can it be OK that he criticizes you because that is his "job" as a dad? If you can just think, "Oh well, that's just dad" and love him anyway, you'll be amazed at the results!
Lastly, one exercise I love to teach and it works miracles is this: Take out a notebook and put your dad's name across the top. Now list ten things that you appreciate about him like this: "Dad, what I appreciate about you is...... "
As you do this it is imperative that you really FEEL the feeling of appreciation, otherwise the exercise does not work. It could be that you appreciate how he fixed your tricycle when you were three yrs old, or how he is such an amazing animal lover etc.
Do this last exercise every day for 30 days (no need to even speak to him for that time) and you'll completely transform your relationship with your dad!
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
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Dear Secret Sage,
I'd like to know how to use the law of attraction for love and money.
Ali
Dear Ali,
You need to have a picture in your mind of how you will enjoy your love life and your money. The clearer the picture and the bigger the emotional feeling you can conjure up when you create this vision in your mind, the easier it will be to manifest.
The terms "love" and "money" are general, so you need to make them SPECIFIC to your true wishes. Why don't you create a vision board? The old-fashioned way is to cut out pictures from magazines that depict scenes that are attractive to you and paste them onto a posterboard so you can look at it every day, so you can generate feelings of excitement and gratitude.
The online version can be found at www.amazingvisionboards.com where you can add music to help you generate those very important EMOTIONAL vibrations that help to attract what you want.
If you want more money, you will have to give the Universe a good reason why. In other words, put photos or pictures on your vision board that represent what you plan to do with your money. You can even draw your vision board if you enjoy artistic pursuits. In order to attract BIG money, you have to have a BIG "WHY" i.e. purpose. If you don't have very concrete plans for the money and how much it will cost, the Universe will not be able to support you as much as you'd like it to.
Specific to love, check out the eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life at www.lawofattractioninlove.com, our sister website and sign up for the free newsletter.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Dear Secret Sage,
I asked for specifics on meeting my life partner and two weeks later I met a man perfect for me. But there is one huge problem - he is going through a divorce with his ex who cheated on him and he is scared to get into a committed relationship. If he was really sent to me by the law of attraction is it possible for bad timing to put things on hold? Or does it mean that he's not teh right one, even though I feel in my heart he is?
Anastasia
Dear Anastasia,
This is an opportunity from the Universe to see if you can hold true to your heart and be patient for the "right man". Either he is the right man and you just need to hold a space for him (be supportive) to let go of old wounds from his previous marriage, or he is not the right man because you didn't specify in your wish that your man need to be available NOW. So you have a choice: be more specific with your wish (and it may end your current relationship) or stick with yoru current relationship and learn how to have a wonderful uncommitted relationship with this man, letting him be who he is and showing him true love and compassion in the process.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Dear Secret Sage,
I have a very good life in many areas: my teenage son is a total joy, I have a home, a good job, and my sister will be coming to live with me next month. There are still several areas in my life that I am totally unhappy with, though.
I am 48 yrs old and these are issues that seem to reoccur over and over again: my finances (I am unable to pay all my bills many are very past due), my relationships (I have been married 3 times and cannot seem to attract a truly loving and warm relationship with someone), and my weight (I want to get back to my ideal weight). Where do I begin to make real changes, instead of repeating patterns over and over again?
Linda
Dear Linda,
Good for you for first acknowledging what is going well in your life. The number one thing you can do to increase the “good” things in your life is to be grateful for what you already have. In fact, even though this is not the usual first step I teach on how to manifest your dreams, I find it a particularly powerful exercise:
Every morning, as soon as you wake up, I want you to think of all the things you appreciate in your life right now and thank the Universe for them. If it is easier, you can journal this. Then, I want you to thank the Universe for everything you want but do not have yet, and I want you to say it in the present tense, as if you have already received it. For example, “Thank you for the extra $10,000 in unexpected income I receive this month.” or “Thank you for the wonderful loving person you’ve brought to my life”.
See if you can make it a game so that you truly get into those feelings of appreciation, like you’ve been given a big present every morning. It takes discipline and practice, but you’ll soon reap the benefits if you are faithful to this exercise and do it with an open heart.
And regarding where to start in making real changes in those areas of your life you are unhappy with, the first thing I would suggest that you do is become really clear on what you want. Write it down in the present tense as if you already have it. “I am so happy now that I am healthy and at my perfect weight of 120 pounds” etc. Do it for each issue.
Then, I would highly suggest you get some support. Take a workshop or classes that will help you become more conscious (meditation, healing classes, law of attraction workshops, spiritual counseling). When you experience repeated unwanted patterns, it points to an area of your mind that is still unconscious, and what you need to do is to bring it into consciousness so that you can have true choice.
I highly suggest you read, The Circle, by Laura Day and Conscious Loving by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks and the Money page on this website for more advice. Thanks for writing.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
Dear Secret Sage,
People who I am aligned with take advantage of me and my skills, but do not give me my due. I am angry and cannot seem to let go of it. I volunteer for the good of the many, but it is not appreciated. What should I do?
Linda
Dear Linda,
What you face sounds painful, yet is incredibly common. The main issue here is your own vibration.
When you have problems with others not respecting you, the problem isn't really them. The somewhat uncomfortable reality is that they function only as a mirror you to...in other words, you have somehow taught them how to treat you.
When you get the same results over and over again, it means that The Universe is giving you another opportunity to react differently. If you normally say "yes" when your heart says "no", then you'll have to practicing doing something different for a change.
In your specific case, there are two main things I'd like you to focus on. Firstly, to raise your vibration (and thus attract other types of supportive people in your life), I want you to create and focus on your life dream. Once you create it, I want you to practice embodying that new reality, pretending with every molecule of your body, that it is already given to you. If you have no current passion or dreams, or your full attention is on another, then BINGO, you'll understand what your main problem is!
Secondly, since you understand that we always get our wishes from The Universe, when you give too much to others and feel unappreciated, you are still somehow benefiting from this situation!
When you've figured out how you are benefiting, then you can choose a different path. For example, you may have a fear of not being liked, so you allow yourself to be taken advantaged of instead of choosing from your heart. So next time you can choose to let go of needing to be liked and say "no".
Ask yourself daily, "What do I want?" It isn't selfish. In fact, when you focus on others, that is called co-dependency. Every time you choose someone else over what you want, you undermine your energy and you teach others to treat you poorly.
When you choose from your heart-what you really want, more and more each day, you'll find that the anger just fades away. You will no longer be expecting approval or appreciation because you will be so full of self-approval and self-appreciation.
Blessings,
The Secret Sage
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